\n Bak\u0131 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Universitetinin sabiq rektoru Abel M\u0259h\u0259rr\u0259movun \u015f\u0259rab qa\u00e7aqmal\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda yaz\u0131lanlardan bir \u00e7oxumuz x\u0259b\u0259rdar olduq. Yaz\u0131lanlara inansaq, adam Az\u0259rbaycan \u015f\u0259rab\u0131n\u0131 \u0130spaniyaya apar\u0131b, orda qabla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b Az\u0259rbaycana geri qaytar\u0131b, burda \u0130span \u015f\u0259rab\u0131 ad\u0131 il\u0259 sat\u0131rm\u0131\u015f. N\u0259 is\u0259, bu bar\u0259d\u0259 yazmayacam. Bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 toxunmaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m.\n<\/p>\n
\n Abelin i\u015f f\u0259aliyy\u0259tind\u0259ki ”oyunlardan” b\u0259hs etm\u0259k fikrim yoxdur. Kim\u0259 maraql\u0131d\u0131rsa, internetd\u0259 onun “parlaq” h\u0259yat\u0131 haqq\u0131nda bir xeyli fakt tapa bil\u0259r.
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\n Maraql\u0131s\u0131 odur ki, Abel m\u00fc\u0259llimin \u0130spaniyadan bura g\u0259tirdiyi h\u0259min o \u015f\u0259rablar\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 marka kimi \u00f6z ad\u0131 da var imi\u015f. Diqq\u0259tinizi m\u0259hz bu n\u00fcansa \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m. S\u0259n bir i\u015f\u0259 bax. \u00d6lk\u0259y\u0259 f\u0131r\u0131ldaq \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 saxta \u0130span \u015f\u0259rab\u0131 g\u0259tir\u0259s\u0259n, onun da \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 \u00f6z ad\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259kk ed\u0259s\u0259n. Bu hal daha \u00e7ox kitab v\u0259 filml\u0259rd\u0259 rast g\u0259lin\u0259n manyaklar\u0131n cinay\u0259t yerind\u0259 buraxd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus izl\u0259r\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259yir.\n<\/p>\n
\n H\u0259tta u\u015faql\u0131qdan h\u0259v\u0259sl\u0259 izl\u0259diyimiz “Evd\u0259 t\u0259k” filmind\u0259n bir s\u0259hn\u0259 yad\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. C\u00fct \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 o\u011furluq ed\u0259n iki ki\u015fid\u0259n biri h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 soyduqlar\u0131 evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xark\u0259n evin b\u00fct\u00fcn sular\u0131n\u0131 sonuna kimi a\u00e7\u0131q qoyur. H\u0259m d\u0259 su t\u00f6k\u00fcl\u0259n yerin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fcxt\u0259lif \u0259sgi v\u0259 \u0259\u015fyalarla ba\u011flay\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 evi ba\u015fdan aya\u011fa su bas\u0131r. Onun o\u011fru partnyoru bu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259ti n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn etdiyini soru\u015fanda, h\u0259min m\u0259nfur o\u011fru q\u0259hq\u0259h\u0259 \u00e7\u0259k\u0259r\u0259k, \u201cbu, bizim ev sahibl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qoydu\u011fumuz bir izdir. Biz “ya\u015f o\u011frular\u0131q”\u201d, – deyir.\n<\/p>\n
\n H\u0259min o\u011fru \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus iz buraxmaqla eqosunu doydururdu. O, h\u0259yatda faydal\u0131, m\u00fcsb\u0259t t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri olan izl\u0259 yadda qalma\u011f\u0131 yox, bel\u0259 al\u00e7aq \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259 gizli m\u0259\u015fhurlu\u011fu se\u00e7mi\u015fdi. Filmd\u0259ki h\u0259min obraz\u0131n ciddi psixoloji probleml\u0259ri var idi. Dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n, onun u\u015faql\u0131qdan qalma travmalar\u0131n\u0131n da oldu\u011funu g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n dialoqlar da filmd\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r qabard\u0131ld\u0131.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, h\u0259yatda hans\u0131sa izl\u0259rl\u0259 yadda qalmaq arzusu insan\u0131n eqosu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Bunun m\u00fcsb\u0259t v\u0259 ya m\u0259nfi olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, h\u0259min \u0259m\u0259l supereqonun g\u0259tirdiyi n\u0259tic\u0259dir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, bu, h\u0259m d\u0259 kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcbahis\u0259li m\u00f6vzu say\u0131l\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Nobel m\u00fckafat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 Bertran Rassel \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn “Evlilik v\u0259 \u0259xlaq” kitab\u0131nda insan\u0131n h\u0259yatda daim nec\u0259s\u0259 bir iz qoymaq ehtiras\u0131na qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri rakursundan da toxunub. O, h\u0259min kitab\u0131nda h\u0259m d\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn o\u011flan \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 daha \u00e7ox arzulamas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259hlil edib. N\u0259slin davam etm\u0259si, soyad\u0131n daim an\u0131lmas\u0131, n\u0259sil \u015f\u0259c\u0259r\u0259sinin y\u00fczillikl\u0259r boyu d\u00fcnyada ya\u015famas\u0131, h\u0259tta \u00f6l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra bel\u0259 bir insan\u0131 bu q\u0259d\u0259r qay\u011f\u0131land\u0131r\u0131rm\u0131\u015f. Faktiki olaraq bu g\u00fcn \u00f6lk\u0259nin r\u0259smi statistikas\u0131 bel\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q deyir ki, Az\u0259rbaycanda o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n say\u0131 q\u0131zlar\u0131n say\u0131ndan \u00e7oxdur. Abort vasit\u0259si il\u0259 \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcl\u0259n q\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131 bu iyr\u0259nc s\u0259b\u0259b\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 m\u0259hv edilir. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 balans pozulur. Ancaq m\u00f6vzumuz qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259ki qeyri-balans\u0131n g\u0259tirdiyi xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z hallar deyil.<\/p>\n
Abel M\u0259h\u0259rr\u0259mov kimi \u00f6z adlar\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259r yerd\u0259 qoymaq ist\u0259y\u0259n \u00e7oxlu sayda adam tan\u0131y\u0131ram. Haz\u0131rda h\u0259min adamlar\u0131n \u0259sas tribunas\u0131 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rdir. Onlar bunu a\u00e7\u0131q v\u0259 ya gizli \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 edir v\u0259 ehtiraslar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcrl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yarad\u0131c\u0131 sayan sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 “q\u0259hr\u0259man”lar\u0131ndan biri m\u0259n\u0259 demi\u015fdi ki, “m\u0259ni \u201cFacebook\u201dda s\u00f6y\u0259nd\u0259 bel\u0259 xo\u015fuma g\u0259lir”. Ondan sad\u0259l\u00f6hvc\u0259sin\u0259 bunun s\u0259b\u0259bini soru\u015fanda, cavab\u0131 bel\u0259 oldu: “Haqq\u0131mda m\u0259nfi dan\u0131\u015f\u0131qlar\u0131n getm\u0259si bel\u0259 m\u0259ni daha da m\u0259\u015fhurla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r”.\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u0259n demir\u0259m, eqo tam olaraq m\u0259hv edilm\u0259li v\u0259 ancaq altruist \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ya\u015famal\u0131y\u0131q. H\u0259r \u015feyin h\u0259ddi var. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 ondad\u0131r ki, dig\u0259rl\u0259rinin haqlar\u0131na h\u00f6rm\u0259t edir v\u0259 f\u0131r\u0131lda\u011fa yol verib, soy\u011fun\u00e7uluq etmirs\u0259ns\u0259, n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r ist\u0259yirs\u0259n eqoist ol. \u018fsas \u0259trafa z\u0259r\u0259r verm\u0259.<\/p>\n
\u018fslind\u0259 bu c\u00fcr adamlar Zaur Qurbanl\u0131 demi\u015fk\u0259n, “uduzmu\u015f” k\u0259sl\u0259rdir. Do\u011frudan da, onlar h\u0259yatda m\u0259n\u0259vi h\u0259zl\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq adamlar say\u0131l\u0131r. Onlar g\u00f6z\u0259l \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259rl\u0259, faydal\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259rl\u0259, dig\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259k olmaqla xatir\u0259 d\u0259ft\u0259rl\u0259rind\u0259 iz saxlama\u011f\u0131 a\u011f\u0131llar\u0131na bel\u0259 g\u0259tirmirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
M\u00fcv\u0259qq\u0259ti v\u0259 material \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 etdikl\u0259ri h\u0259zl\u0259r bel\u0259 onlar\u0131n daxili narahatl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 su s\u0259pmir.<\/p>\n
Bu kimi hallar psixoloji u\u015faql\u0131q travmalar\u0131ndan qaynaqlan\u0131r. T\u0259bii ki, u\u015faql\u0131qda dem\u0259k olar ham\u0131m\u0131z travmalar al\u0131r\u0131q. B\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 bel\u0259 travmalar a\u011f\u0131r v\u0259 d\u0259rin olur. Yen\u0259 d\u0259, o \u015f\u0259rait var ki, \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 h\u0259min travmalar\u0131 sa\u011faldasan.<\/p>\n
\u018fg\u0259r travman\u0131 sa\u011faltmasaq, o, n\u0259inki biz\u0259, h\u0259tta b\u00fct\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r vermi\u015f olacaq. Bu da Abel kimil\u0259rin say\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7oxaldacaq.\n<\/p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bak\u0131 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Universitetinin sabiq rektoru Abel M\u0259h\u0259rr\u0259movun \u015f\u0259rab qa\u00e7aqmal\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda yaz\u0131lanlardan bir \u00e7oxumuz x\u0259b\u0259rdar olduq<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":113245,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-192771","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-menim-fikrimce","infinite-scroll-item","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-33","no-featured-image-padding"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n