\n Bu yax\u0131nlarda qrup hal\u0131nda psixoloji terapiyaya qo\u015fulmu\u015fdum. Orda t\u0259xmin\u0259n on n\u0259f\u0259rd\u0259n \u00e7ox insan i\u015ftirak edirdi. Aralar\u0131nda m\u00fcxt\u0259lif sosial qruplara malik c\u00fcrb\u0259c\u00fcr adamlar\u0131n oldu\u011fu toplant\u0131da psixoloq biz\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 suallar verdi. Ancaq ilk bax\u0131\u015fda s\u0131radan g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n suallar, i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131lara \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131r g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131.\n<\/p>\n
\n Misal \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, psixoloq t\u0259qdimat xarakterli m\u00fcsahib\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz bar\u0259d\u0259 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 f\u0259rqli \u00f6z\u0259llikl\u0259r sadalama\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 xahi\u015f etdi. \u018fslind\u0259 o, standart t\u0259qdimetm\u0259 olmas\u0131n dey\u0259 bel\u0259 yana\u015fma el\u0259di. Bununla \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz haqda yadda qalacaq, f\u0259rqli m\u0259lumatlar verm\u0259yimiz\u0259 \u015f\u0259rait yarad\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131lara s\u00f6z verildi. \u0130lahi, m\u0259n d\u0259h\u015f\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259ldim. Adamlar \u00f6zl\u0259ri haqda be\u015f-alt\u0131 c\u00fcml\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259d\u0259 bilm\u0259dil\u0259r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, bir-ne\u00e7\u0259 i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131 istisna oldu. Onlar n\u0259 ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini bil\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r idi.<\/p>\n
90 faiz is\u0259 n\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bildi, n\u0259 d\u0259 ki, iki s\u00f6z\u00fc bir araya g\u0259tirib dan\u0131\u015fa bildil\u0259r. El\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 oldu ki, h\u0259tta a\u00e7\u0131q-a\u015fkar suallara cavab ver\u0259 bilm\u0259dikl\u0259rini s\u00f6yl\u0259dil\u0259r. Terapiya davam etdiyi m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 h\u0259min i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131lar g\u00f6zl\u0259rini d\u00f6y\u0259r\u0259k ya \u0259trafa, ya da hans\u0131sa m\u0259chul n\u00f6qt\u0259y\u0259 baxaraq vaxt \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcrd\u00fcl\u0259r. Onlar\u0131n g\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 diqq\u0259tl\u0259 baxd\u0131m. H\u0259min n\u0259z\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fctilik vard\u0131.<\/p>\n
Bu acizliyi g\u00f6rm\u0259k m\u0259ni \u00e7ox \u00fczd\u00fc. H\u0259tta kou\u00e7inql\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 bir ba\u015fqa t\u0259limd\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259lim\u00e7inin ”sizin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131 n\u0259dir” sual\u0131na \u0259ks\u0259r i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131lar d\u00fcz-\u0259m\u0259lli cavab ver\u0259 bilm\u0259mi\u015fdil\u0259r. H\u0259tta g\u0259nc bir q\u0131z\u0131n cavab\u0131 lap biab\u0131r\u00e7\u0131 idi: “N\u0259 bilim?! Allah yarad\u0131b, ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q da…”<\/p>\n
Bu \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 o suala eyni c\u00fcr cavab ver\u0259n milyonlarla insan var.
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\n 50-60 ya\u015f\u0131 olan k\u0259sl\u0259r var ki, onlar niy\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 bilmirl\u0259r. Onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259yat – yem\u0259k s\u00fcfr\u0259si, tualet v\u0259 yataq ota\u011f\u0131 \u201c\u00fc\u00e7buca\u011f\u0131ndan\u201d ibar\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n
A\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnya \u0259halisinin b\u00f6y\u00fck \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti bu g\u00fcn o v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259dir. Onlar bioloji h\u0259yat s\u00fcr\u00fcrl\u0259r. \u018fsas funksiyas\u0131 qidalanmaq v\u0259 \u00e7oxalmaq olan h\u0259min k\u0259sl\u0259r \u00f6l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra torpa\u011fa qar\u0131\u015f\u0131b bioloji tullant\u0131ya \u00e7evrilirl\u0259r. B\u0259li, m\u0259hz bioloji tullant\u0131ya! Bu ifad\u0259 m\u0259na etibar\u0131 il\u0259 s\u0259rt g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259 bil\u0259r, ancaq reall\u0131qd\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bir insan n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, n\u0259 ist\u0259diyini bilmirs\u0259, onun he\u00e7 bir h\u0259d\u0259fi yoxdursa, \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc tan\u0131m\u0131rsa, dem\u0259li, onun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 h\u0259yat s\u0131rf bioloji h\u0259yatd\u0131r. Onlar m\u0259n\u0259 g\u0259z\u0259n canl\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcl\u0259ri xat\u0131rlad\u0131rlar. Halbuki insana azadl\u0131q v\u0259 irad\u0259 verilib. Onun se\u00e7im etm\u0259k v\u0259 duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 idar\u0259 etm\u0259k kimi m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259l imtiyazlar\u0131 var.\n<\/p>\n
\n Duy\u011fular\u0131 idar\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259k \u2013 m\u00fcasir psixologiyada buna \u201cemosional intellekt\u201d-y\u0259ni, \u201cEQ\u201d(\u201ci-kyu\u201d oxunur) deyilir.\n<\/p>\n
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\n Emosional intellekt n\u0259dir?
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\n Emosional intellekt \u2013 insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn v\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131ma v\u0259 onlar\u0131 idar\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259 bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bizim h\u0259r birimizd\u0259 emosional intellekt adl\u0131 qeyri-maddi n\u0259sn\u0259 var. Bu nem\u0259t il\u0259 biz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 t\u0259nziml\u0259y\u0259, \u00e7\u0259tin situasiyalarda m\u00f6vqe g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 v\u0259 m\u00fcsb\u0259t n\u0259tic\u0259 ver\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259k q\u0259rarlar ver\u0259 bil\u0259rik.\n<\/p>\n
\n Emosional intellekt – insan davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n fundamental elementidir v\u0259 intellektd\u0259n f\u0259rqlidir. \u201c\u0130Q\u201d(\u201cay-kyu\u201d kimi oxunur) il\u0259 emosional intellekt aras\u0131nda \u0259laq\u0259 yoxdur. \u201c\u0130Q\u201d- ifad\u0259sini y\u0259qin ki, bir \u00e7oxunuz e\u015fid\u0259rsiniz. \u0130Q \u2013 intellekt \u0259msal\u0131 say\u0131l\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
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\n B\u0259s intellekt \u0259msal\u0131 n\u0259dir?
\n <\/b>\n<\/p>\n
\n \u0130ntellekt \u0259msal\u0131 – (ingilisc\u0259 – intelligence quotient \u2013\u201cIQ”) insan\u0131n malik oldu\u011fu intellekt qabiliyy\u0259tinin k\u0259miyy\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259ricisidir. Buna idrak \u0259msal\u0131 da deyilir.\n<\/p>\n
\n 1995-ci ild\u0259 \u00e7ap olunan \u201cEmosional intellekt\u201d kitab\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259llifi Daniel Qoulmenin fikir\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, parlaq intellektual g\u00f6st\u0259ricil\u0259r o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 emosional h\u0259yata t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rmir. O, iddia edir ki, y\u00fcks\u0259k z\u0259ka s\u0259viyy\u0259si he\u00e7 d\u0259 h\u0259yatda 100 faiz u\u011fura t\u0259minat vermir. M\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259t\u0259 bir \u00e7ox amil t\u0259sir edir, ancaq bunlardan \u0259n vacibi – emosional intellektdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u201cTalentSmart\u201d \u015firk\u0259tinin ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259, \u0259n y\u00fcks\u0259k n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n i\u015f\u00e7il\u0259rin 90 faizinin emosional intellekt s\u0259viyy\u0259si yuxar\u0131d\u0131r. Bundan ba\u015fqa, \u201cEQ\u201d ist\u0259nil\u0259n pe\u015f\u0259d\u0259 u\u011furun 58 faizini t\u0259min edir. N\u0259hay\u0259t, emosional intellekt s\u0259viyy\u0259si yuxar\u0131 olan pe\u015f\u0259karlar, dig\u0259r insanlara nisb\u0259t\u0259n, 50 faiz daha \u00e7ox pul qazan\u0131rlar.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bel\u0259 insanlar \u0259s\u0259bl\u0259rini v\u0259 n\u0259fsini cilovlama\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131r v\u0259 harda n\u0259 add\u0131m atmaq laz\u0131m olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 bilirl\u0259r. H\u0259m\u00e7inin onlar\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n olunmu\u015f h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259ri olur v\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini h\u0259min h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7atma\u011fa da motive etm\u0259yi bacar\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
M\u0259n ham\u0131dan \u015f\u0259xsi \u0259xlaq n\u00fcmayi\u015f etdirm\u0259yi, ideal d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 t\u0259rzi s\u0259rgil\u0259m\u0259yi g\u00f6zl\u0259mir\u0259m, yox. Bel\u0259 bir g\u00f6zl\u0259ntinin s\u0259fehlik oldu\u011funu anlay\u0131ram. Bu hal\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 bir n\u00f6v utopiya v\u0259 fantastika olard\u0131. Ancaq b\u00fct\u00fcn hallarda bilgini \u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259k, informasiyan\u0131 yaymaq, insanlar\u0131n niy\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 onlara xat\u0131rlatmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Fikir verin, \u0259traf\u0131m\u0131zdak\u0131lar haqq\u0131nda genin\u0259-boluna saatlarla dan\u0131\u015fa, onlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f v\u0259 xarakterl\u0259rini yorulmadan m\u00fczakir\u0259 ed\u0259 bildiyimiz halda \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz bar\u0259d\u0259 \u00e7ox az m\u0259lumatl\u0131y\u0131q. S\u0259thi m\u0259lumatlar xaric, daxili d\u00fcnyam\u0131z bar\u0259d\u0259 \u00e7ox az x\u0259b\u0259rdar\u0131q. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7ox az, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 he\u00e7 suallar vermirik.<\/p>\n
“Niy\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q?”, “bizi n\u0259l\u0259r xo\u015fb\u0259xt ed\u0259 bil\u0259r?”, “h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131 n\u0259d\u0259dir?” v\u0259 s.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu suallara tapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z cavablar h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 qat\u0131 bioloji t\u0259zah\u00fcrl\u0259rd\u0259n t\u0259mizl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 yard\u0131m\u00e7\u0131 olacaq. Biz \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259l\u0259rimizi ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131rd\u0131qca, suallara cavab tapd\u0131qca, h\u0259yat biz\u0259 daha da r\u0259ngar\u0259ng g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayacaq. Ola bilsin ki, biz o h\u0259qiq\u0259tl\u0259r i\u00e7ind\u0259 \u00e7oxlu sayda iyr\u0259nc, idbar \u015feyl\u0259rl\u0259 d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131q. H\u0259m\u00e7inin bunlar biz\u0259 a\u011f\u0131r v\u0259 a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k, h\u0259, ancaq h\u0259qiq\u0259ti bil\u0259c\u0259yik. H\u0259qiq\u0259t is\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sdir v\u0259 \u00e7ox y\u00fcks\u0259kd\u0259dir.\n<\/p>\n
\n Q\u0259lbimiz\u0259, daxilimiz\u0259 n\u00fcfuz ets\u0259k, orda \u00e7ox \u015feyi tapaca\u011f\u0131q.\n<\/p>\n
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\n Yaz\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259llifin fikirl\u0259rini \u0259ks etdirir v\u0259 Meydan TV-nin m\u00f6vqeyi il\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r.
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