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\n (1-ci yaz\u0131)
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Bu m\u0259qal\u0259md\u0259 m\u0259n, qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini q\u00fcvv\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259n 10 n\u00fcansa toxunacam. Yana\u015fmam \u00fcmumi olsa da, m\u0259n, ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 xitab ed\u0259c\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki son vaxtlar \u0259n \u00e7ox m\u0259hz ki\u015fil\u0259rin qeyri-adekvatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 z\u0259ifliyi hesab\u0131na qad\u0131nla ki\u015fi aras\u0131ndak\u0131 \u0259n\u0259n\u0259vi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcl\u0259 bilmir. M\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n t\u0259bii ki, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n da istifad\u0259 etm\u0259si vacibdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u018fziz h\u0259mcinsim, diqq\u0259tli olmanda fayda var!\n<\/p>\n
\n \u018fvv\u0259l, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t s\u0259n\u0259 bir n\u00f6v oyun, f\u0259thetm\u0259 kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, bu aralar s\u0259n, el\u0259 d\u0259 rahat olmursan. Sonra bundan h\u0259zz alma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rsan, bir xeyli rahatlan\u0131rsan, s\u0259nin n\u0259s\u0259 etm\u0259n\u0259 g\u0259r\u0259k olmur. Daha sonra is\u0259 n\u00f6vb\u0259ti an ya\u015fan\u0131r v\u0259 suallar meydana \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u018fsas sual ad\u0259t\u0259n bel\u0259 olur: \u201cBu m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flayanda a\u011fl\u0131m hardayd\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n?\u201d\n<\/p>\n
\n V\u0259 yaln\u0131z bu x\u0131rda etaplardan sonra h\u0259r \u015fey do\u011fru-d\u00fczg\u00fcn gedirs\u0259, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n oturu\u015fma yaran\u0131r. Bundan sonra s\u0259ni rahat h\u0259yat g\u00f6zl\u0259yir. Orta statistik bir \u015f\u0259xsin m\u00fcnasib\u0259t sxemi t\u0259xmin\u0259n bu c\u00fcrd\u00fcr.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u018fg\u0259r bu model s\u0259ni qane etmirs\u0259, onda s\u0259n, bir fakt\u0131 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259li v\u0259 q\u0259bul etm\u0259lis\u0259n: m\u00fcnasib\u0259t-el\u0259 i\u015f dem\u0259kdir. O i\u015f ki, hans\u0131 ki, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n ofisd\u0259 g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcn g\u00fcnd\u0259lik i\u015fl\u0259ri \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 ehtiva ed\u0259n – hesabatlar\u0131n\u0131, m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259rini v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini da\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n kimi bir \u015fey. H\u0259, \u0259g\u0259r, s\u0259n \u0259lind\u0259 olanlar\u0131 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259yib, i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n boyun qa\u00e7\u0131racaqsansa, o zaman he\u00e7 bir m\u00fcsb\u0259t d\u0259yi\u015fiklik d\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259! M\u00f6c\u00fcz\u0259 ba\u015f verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 indi s\u0259n\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini q\u00fcvv\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259c\u0259k, s\u0259ni n\u00f6vb\u0259ti y\u00fcks\u0259k s\u0259viyy\u0259y\u0259 y\u00fcks\u0259ld\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259ri baya\u011f\u0131l\u0131qdan, r\u0259ngsizlik v\u0259 cans\u0131x\u0131c\u0131l\u0131qdan xilas ed\u0259c\u0259k 10 n\u00fcansdan b\u0259hs ed\u0259c\u0259m.\n<\/p>\n
\n Ancaq g\u0259l, \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n o haqda qeyd edim ki, hans\u0131 hallarda prinsipc\u0259 yeni m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flama\u011f\u0131n m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tli deyil.\n<\/p>\n
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\n *Dostlar\u0131n v\u0259 ail\u0259 \u00fczvl\u0259rinin t\u0259zyiqi v\u0259 israr\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flama
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\n . \u018fg\u0259r dostlar\u0131n v\u0259 ya ananla-atan s\u0259n\u0259 tez-tez \u201cbirini tap, evl\u0259n\u201d kimi s\u00f6zl\u0259r deyirs\u0259, onlar\u0131n t\u0259sirin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k laz\u0131m deyil. F\u0259rqi yoxdur ki, s\u0259nin ne\u00e7\u0259 ya\u015f\u0131n var. Bir \u015feyi d\u0259rk etm\u0259lis\u0259n, s\u0259n bu bar\u0259d\u0259 kim\u0259s\u0259 borclu deyils\u0259n ki, dig\u0259rl\u0259rinin dikt\u0259si il\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 qurasan, h\u0259tta o xahi\u015fi s\u0259nin do\u011fmalar\u0131n bel\u0259 ets\u0259, raz\u0131 olma. M\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, bu c\u00fcr m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox vaxt yax\u015f\u0131 istiqam\u0259t\u0259 do\u011fru getmir. \u0130nsan\u0131n \u00f6z se\u00e7imi olmal\u0131d\u0131r. O zaman m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r\u0131q.\n<\/p>\n
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\n *T\u0259nhal\u0131q
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\n . \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259nha hiss ed\u0259nd\u0259 ona el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n onu ancaq yeni bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259t xilas ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bu is\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259dir. T\u0259nhal\u0131q \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 m\u0259nfi enerjil\u0259ri saxlayan v\u0259ziyy\u0259tdir, sevgi is\u0259 m\u00fcsb\u0259t elektronlardan ibar\u0259t hald\u0131r. Bir-birin\u0259 zidd olan bu hallar birl\u0259\u015f\u0259 bilmir, birl\u0259\u015fs\u0259 d\u0259, onlar\u0131n yola getm\u0259si al\u0131nan i\u015f deyil. G\u0259r\u0259k, s\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 olan bu bo\u015flu\u011fun yaranma s\u0259b\u0259bini t\u0259hlil ed\u0259s\u0259n. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 s\u0259n passiv h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi ke\u00e7irirs\u0259n v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda r\u0259ng, emosiya \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 var. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 t\u0259hlil edib, ciddi n\u0259tic\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xararaq, bo\u015fluqlar\u0131n\u0131 doldurmasan, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flamamal\u0131san.\n<\/p>\n
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\n *Kompleksl\u0259r.
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\n Ba\u015fqa birinin k\u00f6m\u0259yi il\u0259 kompleksl\u0259rini bo\u011fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan. Hans\u0131 ki, o adam, s\u0259ni sevir, s\u0259n\u0259 heyrand\u0131r v\u0259 s\u0259nin eqonu s\u0131\u011fallay\u0131r. S\u0259n m\u0259hz buna g\u00f6r\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t yarad\u0131rsan. S\u0259n o q\u0259d\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u0259min deyils\u0259n ki, kimis\u0259 yan\u0131nda saxlamaqla \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc normal biri kimi s\u00fcbut etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan. Bu is\u0259 k\u00f6k\u00fcnd\u0259n yanl\u0131\u015f yana\u015fmad\u0131r. Ondansa \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015fla v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u0259minliyin yaranandan sonra yeni m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flaya bil\u0259rs\u0259n.\n<\/p>\n
\n 1.Realist ol\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 realist ol v\u0259 \u0259sl sevgini yalan\u00e7\u0131 eyforiyadan ay\u0131rd etm\u0259yi bacar. H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259ki kimi s\u0259n\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n el\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k ki, partnyorun d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 insan\u0131d\u0131r, hans\u0131 ki, onun m\u0259nfi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri yoxdur. Sonra is\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 s\u0259n g\u00f6r\u00fcb, agah olursan ki, sevdiyin xan\u0131m\u0131n da probleml\u0259ri var. Unutma ki, onun hans\u0131sa s\u0259b\u0259b olmadan \u0259hval\u0131 olmayaca\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcnl\u0259r olacaq v\u0259 bu da t\u0259bii ki, s\u0259n\u0259 m\u0259nfi t\u0259sir ed\u0259c\u0259k. Bel\u0259 hallarda m\u00fctl\u0259q ona d\u0259st\u0259k olmal\u0131 v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259lis\u0259n. B\u0259z\u0259n buna g\u00f6r\u0259 \u0259s\u0259bl\u0259rin xarab olacaq, b\u0259z\u0259n, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, elementar probleml\u0259rd\u0259n d\u0259 q\u0131c\u0131qlan\u0131b, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni yoluna qoymaq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n. H\u0259min anlarda yad\u0131na sal ki, bu adamla m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurma\u011f\u0131 s\u0259n se\u00e7mis\u0259n v\u0259 se\u00e7imin\u0259 sahib \u00e7\u0131xmal\u0131san. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 bu c\u00fcr o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259n hallarla rastla\u015fma\u011fa da haz\u0131r ol. H\u0259, bax, bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259rin ya\u015fanmas\u0131 sehrli v\u0259 na\u011f\u0131lvari deyil, hans\u0131 ki, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin \u0259vv\u0259li bu c\u00fcr idi. Ancaq bu reall\u0131qd\u0131r v\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey o vaxt d\u00fcr\u00fcst v\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 inki\u015faf ed\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, s\u0259n, m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6z boynuna g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxmadan n\u0259inki \u00f6z problemini, h\u0259tta, ba\u015fqa insan\u0131n da problemini h\u0259ll ed\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n. \u018fmin ol ki, sonra bunun \u0259v\u0259zind\u0259 s\u0259n d\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n ciddi d\u0259st\u0259k v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n. Bu hal sizi bir-biriniz\u0259 daha yax\u0131n ed\u0259c\u0259k. He\u00e7 kimin he\u00e7 kim\u0259 borcu yoxdur. D\u0259st\u0259k v\u0259 sevgi, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131q g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n i\u00e7d\u0259n g\u0259lir. \u0130lluziyalar\u0131 beynind\u0259n at v\u0259 realist olmaq fakt\u0131n\u0131 q\u0259bul el\u0259. Bu n\u00fcans g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259 \u00e7ox k\u00f6m\u0259k olacaq.\n<\/p>\n
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\n 2.Partnyoruna h\u00f6rm\u0259t el\u0259.
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\n M\u00f6hk\u0259m v\u0259 sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti ayaqda saxlayan dig\u0259r n\u00fcans \u2013 h\u00f6rm\u0259tdir. M\u00fcnasib\u0259tin inki\u015faf m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259rin\u0259 ged\u0259n yolda, h\u00f6rm\u0259t, sevgid\u0259n d\u0259 qabaqda dayan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u00f6rm\u0259t its\u0259, o biri hissl\u0259rin, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259ti qalmayacaq. El\u0259 m\u0259qam olacaq, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n ki, s\u0259n bu adam\u0131 daha sevmirs\u0259n, sizin sad\u0259c\u0259 daimi m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259riniz, m\u00fcbahis\u0259 v\u0259 qalmaqallar\u0131n\u0131z var. Ancaq bu, bir n\u00f6v sizin birliyinizin g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc s\u0131nayan test olacaq v\u0259 testi u\u011furla ke\u00e7s\u0259niz, h\u0259r \u015fey asta-asta stabill\u0259\u015f\u0259c\u0259k. Bax, el\u0259 o hallar zaman\u0131 sevdiyin xan\u0131ma h\u00f6rm\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259yin olduqca vacibdir. Q\u0259tiyy\u0259n s\u0259rh\u0259dl\u0259ri a\u015fmaq olmaz. Bir d\u0259 burdak\u0131 vacib n\u00fcans \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259h\u00f6rm\u0259tdir. Bunsuz s\u0259nin n\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rin ola bil\u0259r? Riay\u0259t etm\u0259li oldu\u011fun dig\u0259r m\u00fch\u00fcm m\u0259qamlar:\n<\/p>\n
\n *Sevdiyin qad\u0131ndan he\u00e7 kim\u0259 \u015fikay\u0259t etm\u0259! \u018fg\u0259r sevgilind\u0259 xo\u015funa g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 s\u0259ni qane etm\u0259y\u0259n n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 varsa, bunu onun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 de, n\u0259inki, dostlar\u0131na v\u0259 ail\u0259n\u0259. \u00c7\u00fcnki s\u0259n bir ne\u00e7\u0259 saata h\u0259min m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259ni unudacaqsan, amma s\u0259nin dostlar\u0131n v\u0259 yax\u0131n \u00e7evr\u0259nd\u0259 sevgilin haqda \u00e7ox m\u0259nfi r\u0259y yaranacaq, hans\u0131 ki, bunu sonradan b\u0259rpa etm\u0259k d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tindir.\n<\/p>\n
\n *Sevdiyin qad\u0131n\u0131n hobbi v\u0259 \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f. Siz tamamil\u0259, ayr\u0131-ayr\u0131 adamlars\u0131n\u0131z v\u0259 m\u0259ntiql\u0259 yana\u015fd\u0131qda, anlamaq olar ki, onun ba\u015fqa maraq v\u0259 hobbil\u0259ri ola bil\u0259r, hans\u0131 ki, onlar s\u0259n\u0259 absurd g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259 bil\u0259r. Dan\u0131\u015f\u0131q vaxt\u0131, o m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 toxunma v\u0259 onun se\u00e7imin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f.\n<\/p>\n
\n *Sevgilinin fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t et. H\u0259r zaman, h\u0259r \u015feyi, ikinizin \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 q\u0259rar verm\u0259kd\u0259n vaz ke\u00e7. Onun da fikirin\u0259, r\u0259yin\u0259 diqq\u0259t et, \u00e7\u00fcnki o da, s\u0259nin kimi, bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin tamh\u00fcquqlu \u00fczv\u00fcd\u00fcr.\n<\/p>\n
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\n 3.Probleml\u0259ri m\u00fczakir\u0259 et
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\n Yad\u0131nda saxla ki, \u0259g\u0259r probleml\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fmasan, onlar\u0131 h\u0259ll ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn is\u0259 s\u0259ninl\u0259, xan\u0131m\u0131n aras\u0131nda g\u00fcv\u0259n olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, g\u00fcv\u0259n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin \u0259sas fundamentl\u0259rind\u0259n biridir. G\u00fcv\u0259n olmayacaqsa, m\u00fcbahis\u0259 v\u0259 qalmaqallar\u0131n\u0131z he\u00e7 vaxt s\u0259ngiy\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tiniz u\u00e7uruma do\u011fru gedib, a\u015facaq. \u018fg\u0259r xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 s\u0259ni narahat edirs\u0259, adam balas\u0131 kimi otur v\u0259 bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni onunla m\u00fczakir\u0259 el\u0259. Ancaq bu m\u00fczakir\u0259ni maksimum sakit, emosiyalar\u0131 k\u0259nara buraxaraq, t\u0259hqirsiz v\u0259 onu divara dir\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k etm\u0259m\u0259lis\u0259n.\n<\/p>\n
\n -S\u0259nd\u0259 qorxu v\u0259 \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 yaradan \u015feyl\u0259ri xan\u0131m\u0131nla b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015f. H\u0259tta \u0259n yax\u0131n dostlar\u0131nla dan\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n m\u00f6vzular\u0131 bel\u0259 onunla dan\u0131\u015f. \u0130nan, xan\u0131m\u0131n s\u0259ni ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan da yax\u015f\u0131 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259k, laz\u0131m\u0131 s\u00f6zl\u0259ri tap\u0131b, dey\u0259r\u0259k, s\u0259ni y\u00fcng\u00fcll\u0259\u015fdir\u0259c\u0259k. H\u0259m d\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131nla bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259ri b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259yin, onun \u00e7ox xo\u015funa g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k, bunu jest kimi q\u0259bul edib, ona n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00fcv\u0259ndiyini anlayacaq.\n<\/p>\n
\n -H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u00f6z verdiyin v\u0259dl\u0259ri yerin\u0259 yetir. S\u00f6z verib, \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 durmayan tip\u0259 \u00e7evirilm\u0259. \u00c7\u00fcnki s\u0259n, bu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 sevgilin\u0259 n\u0259l\u0259ris\u0259 s\u00f6z verib, yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259ns\u0259, g\u00fcnl\u0259rin bir g\u00fcn\u00fc, o, art\u0131q s\u0259nin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 inanmayacaq v\u0259 s\u0259ni qeyri-ciddi adam hesab etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayacaq. \u018fmin\u0259m ki, s\u0259n o c\u00fcr birin\u0259 \u00e7evirilm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259rs\u0259n.\n<\/p>\n
\n -B\u00fct\u00fcn qalmaqallarda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u0259n haql\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f sayma. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc q\u0131z\u0131n yerin\u0259 d\u0259 qoyma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f v\u0259 onun naraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259hlil edib, d\u0259rk el\u0259. Eqoistlik edib, t\u0259kc\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259. \u018fdal\u0259t hissini itirm\u0259!\n<\/p>\n
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\n 4.H\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 idar\u0259 edib, n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma.
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\n Total n\u0259zar\u0259t – bax, bu, el\u0259 pis hald\u0131r ki, h\u0259tta \u0259n sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri bel\u0259 darmada\u011f\u0131n ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. Xan\u0131m\u0131n h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 s\u0131rf s\u0259n sakit v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olasan dey\u0259 n\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259ns\u0259 imtina etm\u0259li deyil. \u00c7\u00fcnki bir g\u00fcn o, bu hallardan bezib, h\u0259r \u015feyi k\u00f6kl\u00fc \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259 bil\u0259r. S\u0259n, d\u0259rk etm\u0259lis\u0259n ki, xan\u0131m\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bir m\u00fcst\u0259qil \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tdir v\u0259 onun da \u00f6z hobbil\u0259ri, r\u0259fiq\u0259l\u0259ri v\u0259 sevimli m\u0259\u015f\u011fuliyy\u0259tl\u0259ri var. Nec\u0259 ki, bu \u015feyl\u0259r s\u0259nin \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00f6vcuddur. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t el\u0259 v\u0259 onun telefonunu, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 hesablar\u0131n\u0131 yoxlama\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma. \u0130mkan ver, o da r\u0259fiq\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fs\u00fcn v\u0259 vaxt ke\u00e7irsin. Yen\u0259 deyir\u0259m, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc onun yerin\u0259 qoy v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f s\u0259n\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 bel\u0259 add\u0131m atsayd\u0131, xo\u015funa g\u0259l\u0259rdi? \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, xo\u015funa g\u0259lm\u0259zdi. B\u0259s, onda niy\u0259 \u00f6z partnyorundan bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259ri t\u0259l\u0259b edirs\u0259n? \u018fg\u0259r, s\u0259n, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 azadl\u0131q verm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kinirs\u0259ns\u0259, bu, o dem\u0259kdir ki, s\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u0259min deyils\u0259n v\u0259 s\u0259nin k\u00fclli miqdarda kompleksl\u0259rin var, hans\u0131 ki, s\u0259n onlar\u0131 yox el\u0259m\u0259lis\u0259n. \u0130nan m\u0259n\u0259, \u0259g\u0259r, s\u0259n bu kompleksl\u0259rini yox edib, \u00f6z daxili problemini \u00e7\u00f6zs\u0259n, avtomatik olaraq xan\u0131m\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 etdiyin total n\u0259zar\u0259td\u0259n d\u0259 imtina ed\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n. S\u0259ni narahat ed\u0259n i\u00e7ind\u0259ki qurdlar\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, \u015f\u0259xsi suallar\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 ver\u0259r\u0259k, onlara cavab tapsan, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. \u00d6z\u00fcnl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxma. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259, bu bar\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z xan\u0131m\u0131nla da dan\u0131\u015fa bil\u0259rs\u0259n v\u0259 o, s\u0259n\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn yol g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 s\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc daha yax\u015f\u0131 d\u0259rk etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flaya, h\u0259tta m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinizi qaydaya sal\u0131b, q\u00fcvv\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259 bil\u0259rs\u0259n.\n<\/p>\n
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\n 5.\u0130kinizin d\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259c\u0259yin\u0259 haz\u0131r ol!
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\n S\u0259n n\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn, n\u0259 d\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n ill\u0259r sonra nec\u0259 birin\u0259 \u00e7eviril\u0259c\u0259yini bil\u0259 bilm\u0259zs\u0259n. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 s\u0259ni qorxutmas\u0131n. B\u0259li, biz g\u00f6r\u00fcb, a\u015fkar \u015fahidi oluruq ki, insanlar h\u0259yatlar\u0131nda nec\u0259 inqilabi d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r edirl\u0259r. B\u0259z\u0259n bu irad\u0259 il\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 qeyri-iradi ba\u015f verir. Bir \u00e7ox c\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcn \u0259sas problemi el\u0259 bundad\u0131r. Onlar \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259 yaranan d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r\u0259 haz\u0131r deyill\u0259r. Onlar anlam\u0131rlar ki, bu hal tamamil\u0259 normal hald\u0131r. Ax\u0131 insan \u00f6z g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u0259, h\u0259yata bax\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, m\u00f6vqeyind\u0259, h\u0259tta, dost \u00e7evr\u0259sind\u0259 bel\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u0259yi\u015fikl\u0259r ed\u0259 bilir. V\u0259 o, bu halda partnyorundan tan\u0131\u015f olub, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcy\u00fc ilk ill\u0259rd\u0259 oldu\u011fu kimi qalma\u011f\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Bil ki, bu t\u0259l\u0259binin yerin\u0259 yetirilm\u0259si qeyri-reald\u0131r. B\u0259s, n\u0259 etm\u0259li? Yax\u015f\u0131 suald\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259, bu d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r\u0259 haz\u0131r olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, \u00f6z xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259, onun hobbi v\u0259 sevimli m\u0259\u015f\u011fuliyy\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 tez-tez, yax\u0131ndan maraqlanmal\u0131san! \u018fn \u0259sas m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 is\u0259, bu \u015feyl\u0259r s\u0259nin o q\u0259d\u0259r \u00fcr\u0259yinc\u0259 olmasa bel\u0259 v\u0259 el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 s\u0259n, onlar\u0131 \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131nda t\u0259tbiq etm\u0259yi \u00f6z\u00fcn \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z bir \u015fey saysan da, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu d\u0259yi\u015fiklik prosesin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmal\u0131san! Unutma ki, s\u0259nin xan\u0131m\u0131n ayr\u0131 bir insand\u0131r. Y\u0259ni ki, o da onminl\u0259rl\u0259 m\u00fcxt\u0259lif d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259y\u0259 malik insanlardan biridir. Siz he\u00e7 vaxt eyni insan ola bilm\u0259zsiniz. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 t\u0259lqin etdiyin prinsipl\u0259ri, ona da t\u0259lqin etm\u0259. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 maksimum m\u0259ntiql\u0259 yana\u015f v\u0259 s\u0259daq\u0259tini \u0259ld\u0259n verm\u0259d\u0259n, d\u0259yi\u015fikl\u0259r\u0259 haz\u0131r ol. Ondan sonra, \u00f6z\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n ki, xan\u0131m\u0131n da s\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259ri normal v\u0259 pozitiv qar\u015f\u0131layacaq. Buna \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259n olmas\u0131n v\u0259 arxay\u0131n ol ki, bu c\u00fcr edib, d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259ri normal qar\u015f\u0131lasan\u0131z, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tiniz bu \u00e7\u0259tin d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u00fc rahatl\u0131qla ke\u00e7\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259ksiniz.\n<\/p>\n
\n Yaz\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131, g\u0259l\u0259n m\u0259qal\u0259d\u0259 olacaq…\n<\/p>\n
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\n Yaz\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259llifin fikirl\u0259rini \u0259ks etdirir v\u0259 Meydan TV-nin m\u00f6vqeyi il\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r.
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Bu m\u0259qal\u0259md\u0259 m\u0259n, qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini q\u00fcvv\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259n 10 n\u00fcansa toxunacam<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":80446,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-185946","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-menim-fikrimce","infinite-scroll-item","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-33","no-featured-image-padding"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n