\n Feminizmin n\u0259 olmas\u0131 bar\u0259d\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar var. Google-danca tap\u0131b oxumaq olar. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 yaz\u0131m\u0131n daha a\u011f\u0131r\u00e7\u0259kili g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259si x\u0259trin\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259llif adlar\u0131 alt\u0131nda, linkl\u0259rl\u0259, kitab adlar\u0131 il\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259yib siz\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259t verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. Siz\u0259 feminizmi daha sad\u0259 yolla anlad\u0131b, x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259, bunun t\u0259tbiqinin n\u0259tic\u0259sini t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259md\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011fam. C\u0259mi bir-iki misal.\n<\/p>\n
\n Feminizm qad\u0131nlarla ki\u015fil\u0259rin b\u0259rab\u0259r olmas\u0131 haqq\u0131nda y\u00fcks\u0259k s\u0259sli iddiad\u0131r. V\u0259ssalam. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc \u00e7ox da\u011fa-d\u0259r\u0259y\u0259 salmay\u0131n.\n<\/p>\n
\n B\u0259z\u0259n radikal feministl\u0259r \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r, m\u0259nas\u0131z iddialar at\u0131rlar ortaya, m\u0259n\u0259 onlar maraql\u0131 deyil, kim\u0259 maraql\u0131d\u0131rsa, onlarla m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olsun.\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u0259n\u0259 maraql\u0131 olan cinsi b\u0259rab\u0259rlikdir. Bu da feminizmin \u0259sas qay\u0259sidir. H\u0259rfb\u0259h\u0259rf t\u0259rc\u00fcm\u0259y\u0259 qa\u00e7may\u0131n. R\u0259sul adl\u0131 ateistl\u0259r var y\u0259ni. Feminizm \u201cqad\u0131nizm\u201d dem\u0259k deyil, \u201cb\u0259rab\u0259r\u00e7ilik\u201d dem\u0259kdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u0259n feminist\u0259m. T\u0259vaz\u00f6karl\u0131qdan bir az uzaq olsa da, \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 bildiyim hadis\u0259l\u0259ri \u2013 \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259mi dan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 olaca\u011fam (\u00e7\u00fcnki yax\u015f\u0131 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259ri b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r). Feminist olmaqda a\u00e7ar n\u00f6qt\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n biri qad\u0131n i\u015fl\u0259ri adl\u0131 v\u0259zif\u0259l\u0259r toplusunun olmamas\u0131n\u0131 q\u0259bul etm\u0259kdir. Dey\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz, qad\u0131n h\u00fcquqlar\u0131 var amma. B\u0259li, var, amma bu, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n qeyri-b\u0259rab\u0259r v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 yarad\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, \u0259slind\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rlik t\u0259min olunandan sonra aktuall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 itir\u0259c\u0259k sah\u0259dir.\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u0259i\u015f\u0259t qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox s\u0131x\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 sah\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259ndir. Evd\u0259 qablar\u0131 kim yuyur? Yaxud kim yumal\u0131d\u0131r? \u201cM\u0259n d\u0259 yuyuram h\u0259rd\u0259n\u201d \u2013 bu cavab\u0131 ver\u0259n ki\u015fi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n\u0131 pozur. Evd\u0259 ananla qablar\u0131 yumaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcr\u00fcrs\u0259nmi? \u2013 Ooohoooo. Bu suala m\u00fcsb\u0259t cavab ver\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259k o\u011ful axtar\u0131ram.\n<\/p>\n
\n H\u0259, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259md\u0259n dan\u0131\u015facaqd\u0131m ax\u0131. Kimins\u0259 evin\u0259 qonaql\u0131\u011fa getmi\u015fdik. Yem\u0259kl\u0259r s\u0131x-s\u0131x d\u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc bir q\u0131raqdan vurduq bu d\u0259ryayi-l\u0259\u015fk\u0259r\u0259. Yedik, s\u00fcm\u00fckl\u0259ri, salfetl\u0259ri t\u00f6kd\u00fck bo\u015fqab\u0131m\u0131za, g\u0259yirdik v\u0259… qad\u0131n olan h\u0259r k\u0259s qalxd\u0131 aya\u011fa ki, bu t\u00f6r-t\u00f6k\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b m\u0259lum fiziki g\u00f6st\u0259riciy\u0259 malik olmayanlara \u00e7aydan, meyv\u0259d\u0259n g\u0259tirsinl\u0259r. M\u0259n d\u0259 durdum aya\u011fa, qaba\u011f\u0131mdak\u0131 bo\u015fqablar\u0131-filan\u0131 y\u0131\u011fd\u0131m, sonra ba\u015flad\u0131m, qon\u015fuluqdak\u0131 \u00e7irkli bo\u015fqablar\u0131 y\u0131\u011fma\u011fa. Qiyam\u0259t d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. Avtobusda q\u0259pik \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 olan davaya ox\u015fay\u0131rd\u0131. Ki\u015fil\u0259r bo\u015fqablar\u0131n\u0131 m\u0259n\u0259 vermirdil\u0259r. Tez qap\u0131b s\u00fcm\u00fckl\u0259ri \u00fcmumi zibilim\u0259 ata bilmi\u015fdims\u0259, \u00f6z s\u00fcm\u00fckl\u0259rini se\u00e7ib t\u0259z\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6z bo\u015fqablar\u0131na qoyurdular. M\u0259ni bu i\u015fd\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kindirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7irkli, araq qal\u0131\u011f\u0131, di\u015f \u00e7\u00f6p\u00fc q\u0131r\u0131qlar\u0131 olan bo\u015fqablar\u0131na olan-qalan yem\u0259kd\u0259n c\u0259ld t\u00f6k\u00fcb \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259k bat\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131lar. D\u0259rhal m\u0259n\u0259 araq s\u00fcz\u00fcb sa\u011fl\u0131q dem\u0259yimi t\u0259l\u0259b etdil\u0259r. M\u0259qs\u0259d \u2013 stolu \u201carvadlar\u201d y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rs\u0131n v\u0259 yaln\u0131z \u201cq\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131\u201d k\u00f6m\u0259k etsinl\u0259r ki, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 \u201carvad\u201d ola bilsinl\u0259r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu q\u0131r\u011f\u0131ndan b\u0259zi \u00e7irkli bo\u015fqablar\u0131 xilas edib m\u0259tb\u0259x\u0259 aparanda orada m\u0259ni arvadlar d\u0259m-d\u0259sgahla qar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131rd\u0131lar. \u201cBooy, biab\u0131r olduq. Qona\u011f\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259dirik\u201d. Qay\u0131d\u0131b bunlara k\u00f6m\u0259k ed\u0259n anam\u0131 v\u0259 dig\u0259r qad\u0131n qonaqlar\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rib soru\u015fdum ki, \u201cB\u0259s bunlar qonaq deyil?\u201d Onda \u00e7\u0259mkirdil\u0259r \u00fcst\u00fcm\u0259: \u201c\u018f\u0259, ki\u015fis\u0259n, get, ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 otur. Arvad i\u015fin\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fma\u201d.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u0130ndi evliy\u0259m. Arvad\u0131m da feministdir. Evd\u0259 i\u015f b\u00f6lg\u00fcs\u00fc 50-50-y\u0259dir. T\u0259bii, b\u0259zi ki\u015fi i\u015fl\u0259ri var \u2013 a\u011f\u0131r n\u0259 is\u0259 qald\u0131rmaq kimi. Y\u0259ni yaln\u0131z m\u0259nim fiziki g\u00f6st\u0259ricil\u0259rim imkan ver\u0259n i\u015fl\u0259r. Amma qad\u0131n i\u015fi yoxdur. Qablar\u0131 da bir d\u0259f\u0259 birimiz, bir d\u0259f\u0259 dig\u0259rimiz yuyuruq, t\u0259mizlik d\u0259 h\u0259m\u00e7inin, paltarlar da el\u0259c\u0259, yem\u0259k bi\u015firm\u0259k d\u0259 v\u0259 s. H\u0259rd\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259rimiz (valideynl\u0259rimiz) soru\u015furlar ki, yem\u0259yi kim bi\u015firir. M\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar ki, ki\u015fi \u201carvad i\u015fi\u201d g\u00f6rm\u0259sin. Eyham vururlar, zarafatlarla s\u00f6zl\u0259rini \u00e7atd\u0131rmaq ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. T\u0259bii ki, ist\u0259dikl\u0259rin\u0259 nail olmurlar.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u0130ctimai n\u0259qliyyatda arvad\u0131ma yer ver\u0259nd\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 \u201cbuyur, qaqa\u015f\u201d deyirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni s\u0259nin yan\u0131nda arvad\u0131nla dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131r\u0131q. M\u0259n d\u0259 cavab vermir\u0259m, \u00e7\u00fcnki yer t\u0259klif olunan m\u0259n deyil\u0259m. Qarda\u015f da m\u0259n\u0259 \u201cponyatkas\u0131z\u201d kimi bax\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bir d\u0259f\u0259 dostumun u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131n ad g\u00fcn\u00fcnd\u0259 idik. Ham\u0131 stola d\u0259v\u0259t olunanda m\u0259n d\u0259 arvad\u0131m\u0131n yan\u0131nda oturdum sakitc\u0259. Bir az sonra dedil\u0259r, yox ee, s\u0259n uzaqdan g\u0259l\u0259n qonaqsan, ke\u00e7 ba\u015fa (Ba\u015fda da \u0259lav\u0259 stol var idi, az\u0131 5 n\u0259f\u0259r yan-yana otururdu). M\u0259n durdum, arvad\u0131m da durdu, m\u0259n ke\u00e7ib o ba\u015fdak\u0131 yerl\u0259rd\u0259n birind\u0259 oturdum, arvad\u0131 qoymad\u0131lar. Dedil\u0259r, \u201cyox ee, s\u0259n hara, bac\u0131, yerini bil\u201d. Arvadlar m\u0259clisin aya\u011f\u0131ndan \u2013 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsiz yerind\u0259n ba\u015flayaraq, otururlar, s\u0131\u011fmayanda ortaya yay\u0131l\u0131rlar. Ki\u015fil\u0259r is\u0259 m\u0259clisin ba\u015f\u0131ndan \u2013 h\u00f6rm\u0259tli yerind\u0259n otururlar, s\u0131\u011fmayanda ortaya yay\u0131l\u0131rlar. M\u0259n bir az m\u00fcqavim\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k ist\u0259dim, amma h\u00fccum \u00e7ox g\u00fccl\u00fc idi \u2013 fiziki m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 il\u0259. Xalalar yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kib oturtdular, day\u0131lar da m\u0259ni. M\u0259clisin gedi\u015find\u0259 ist\u0259dim, qad\u0131nlara k\u00f6m\u0259k edim, yen\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki m\u00fcnasib\u0259t \u2013 eyhaml\u0131 \u201cKi\u015fi ol, \u0259\u0259\u201d m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti.\n<\/p>\n
\n S\u00f6hb\u0259ti ictimai sektora g\u0259tirm\u0259k ist\u0259mir\u0259m. El\u0259 bel\u0259 m\u0259i\u015f\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259 qals\u0131n. Sad\u0259c\u0259 hesablay\u0131n, \u0259g\u0259r evd\u0259 anan\u0131z\u0131n, bac\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n, arvad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n siz\u0259 g\u0259tirdiyi \u00e7ayla, yudu\u011fu qablarla, yudu\u011fu, qatlad\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00fct\u00fcl\u0259diyi paltarlarla, s\u00fcp\u00fcrd\u00fcy\u00fc \u0259razi il\u0259, apard\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259mizlikl\u0259 sizin etdikl\u0259riniz aras\u0131nda f\u0259rq yoxdursa, onda vicdan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 aldatm\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.\n<\/p>\n
\n 2000-ci ild\u0259 \u201cGalatasaray\u201d \u201cReal\u201dla Super Kubok u\u011frunda oynayanda \u00f6z-\u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 s\u00f6z verdim ki, \u201cGalatasaray\u201d udsa, anamdan bir d\u0259 \u00e7ay ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. \u00c7ox \u00e7\u0259tin oldu bu s\u00f6z\u00fc tutmaq. Dem\u0259k olar, tutdum. Amma ill\u0259rl\u0259 davam ed\u0259n bu \u00e7\u0259tinlik m\u0259n\u0259 bir \u015feyi \u00f6yr\u0259tdi \u2013 anam\u0131n \u00e7\u0259kdiyi z\u00fclml\u0259ri m\u0259nim arvad\u0131m \u00e7\u0259km\u0259m\u0259lidir. M\u0259n x\u0259st\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259t t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n ki\u015fi say\u0131lmamaq hesab\u0131na da olsa, monstr olmayaca\u011fam.\n<\/p>\n
\n Feminist olmaq fiziki olaraq \u00e7\u0259tindir, indiy\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259rki rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u0259ld\u0259n verm\u0259li olursan, amma m\u0259n\u0259vi olaraq komfortdur, c\u0259nn\u0259tdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n P.S. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na arvad dey\u0259nl\u0259ri q\u0131nayanlar\u0131n n\u0259z\u0259rin\u0259: arvad s\u00f6z\u00fc ay\u0131b deyil. Bunu ay\u0131b kateqoriyan\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131n art\u0131q. Qanunvericilikd\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259r v\u0259 arvad anlay\u0131\u015flar\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulub.\n<\/p>\n
\n P.P.S. Son onillikl\u0259rd\u0259 cins v\u0259 gender\u0259 veril\u0259n t\u0259rifl\u0259r aras\u0131nda yax\u0131nla\u015fmalar, LGBT h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcnd\u0259m\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259si feminizmin f\u0259aliyy\u0259t sah\u0259sini qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi q\u00fctbl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n xeyli geni\u015fl\u0259ndirib, amma m\u0259n m\u0259i\u015f\u0259timiz\u0259 bax\u0131b dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131m dey\u0259, bu yaz\u0131da \u201cqad\u0131n-ki\u015fi\u201dd\u0259n k\u0259nara \u00e7\u0131xa bilm\u0259dim.\n<\/p>\n
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