\n Bir ild\u0259n \u00e7oxdur ki psixologiyan\u0131n qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri sah\u0259sini m\u0259nims\u0259yir\u0259m. “Facebook”da da bacard\u0131qca tez-tez bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n yaz\u0131ram. Bildiyim informasiyalar\u0131 insanlarla b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259yi \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 borc bilir\u0259m. H\u0259r zaman aktual olan bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r bar\u0259d\u0259 maarifl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00f6lk\u0259mizd\u0259ki insanlara bu g\u00fcn hava v\u0259 su kimi vacibdir. Niy\u0259?\n<\/p>\n
\n \u00c7\u00fcnki \u00fcz\u00fcl\u0259r\u0259k v\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259 bildirm\u0259liy\u0259m ki, bu g\u00fcn Az\u0259rbaycandak\u0131 ail\u0259 inistitutu q\u0259zal\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcb. Statistikaya g\u00f6r\u0259, h\u0259r ay 1000 ail\u0259d\u0259 bo\u015fanma hadis\u0259si ya\u015fan\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar bir-biri il\u0259 yola ged\u0259 bilmir. H\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 anlay\u0131\u015f kimi t\u0259m\u0259l prinsipl\u0259r m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 gir\u0259n h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r\u0259 yadd\u0131r. Bax, o c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tind\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259ni yana\u015fmalar\u0131n he\u00e7 bir hal\u0131na rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olmur. Sosioloqlar h\u0259y\u0259can t\u0259bili \u00e7al\u0131rlar. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar d\u0259h\u015f\u0259t do\u011furur.\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u0259hz buna g\u00f6r\u0259 bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri bacard\u0131qca daha \u00e7ox \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 bilgil\u0259rimi payla\u015fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131ram. H\u0259tta m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r\u0259 f\u0259rdi v\u0259 birg\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259k vasit\u0259\u00e7iliyi d\u0259 edir\u0259m. Bunu q\u0259tiyy\u0259n lov\u011falanmaq v\u0259 \u00f6y\u00fcnm\u0259k kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259yin. H\u0259r bir insan\u0131n \u00fcmd\u0259 missiyas\u0131 h\u0259m d\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131na yard\u0131m etm\u0259k v\u0259 bildiyi yax\u015f\u0131 m\u0259lumatlar\u0131 payla\u015fmaqdan ibar\u0259tdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu yax\u0131nlarda qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti \u00fczr\u0259 bir t\u0259limd\u0259 i\u015ftirak etdim. T\u0259limd\u0259 i\u015ftirak ed\u0259nl\u0259rin 50 faizd\u0259n \u00e7oxu qad\u0131nlar idi. Onu da \u0259lav\u0259 edim ki, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00e7oxu ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n bu sah\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259y\u0259 daha \u00e7ox meyllidil\u0259r. Bu da h\u0259m\u00e7inin t\u0259limd\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n f\u0259al i\u015ftirak\u0131nda da \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc a\u015fkar g\u00f6st\u0259rirdi. H\u0259, bir d\u0259, qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n getdikc\u0259 f\u0259alla\u015fmas\u0131 t\u0259qdir\u0259layiqdir. Ha\u015fiy\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0131xmay\u0131m. T\u0259limd\u0259 \u00fcmumi qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri v\u0259 ordak\u0131 m\u0259nfi hallardan dan\u0131\u015f\u0131ld\u0131. Sonra t\u0259lim\u00e7il\u0259r i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131lara bel\u0259 bir sualla m\u00fcraci\u0259t etdil\u0259r:\n<\/p>\n
\n \u201c\u018fg\u0259r \u0259linizd\u0259 f\u00fcrs\u0259t olsayd\u0131, sevdiyiniz, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 oldu\u011funuz \u015f\u0259xsd\u0259n bir g\u00fcn \u0259rzind\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc sizinl\u0259 nec\u0259 aparmas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259y\u0259rdiniz? Ondan n\u0259l\u0259r ist\u0259y\u0259rdiniz?\u201d\n<\/p>\n
\n M\u00fcxt\u0259lif cavablar s\u0259sl\u0259ndi. Biri daha \u00e7ox diqq\u0259tli olmas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259di, dig\u0259ri onu s\u0259yah\u0259t\u0259 aparmas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259yini dil\u0259 g\u0259tirdi, bir ba\u015fqas\u0131 s\u0259rh\u0259dsiz seks arzusunu dedi v\u0259 s.\n<\/p>\n
\n T\u0259lim\u0259 birg\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 olan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r g\u0259lmi\u015fdi. El\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7ox diqq\u0259timi \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n onlar\u0131n bu suala olan cavablar\u0131 oldu. Onlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda evli c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r d\u0259 vard\u0131. Birg\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin cavablar\u0131 mahiyy\u0259tc\u0259 bir-birin\u0259 \u00e7ox b\u0259nz\u0259di. H\u0259tta h\u0259min cavablar m\u0259ni m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259ndirdi d\u0259.\n<\/p>\n
\n Onlar\u0131n sevgilil\u0259rind\u0259n ist\u0259diyi bir g\u00fcnl\u00fck \u015fey- M\u018fHDUD\u0130YY\u018fTS\u0130ZL\u0130K oldu. Bu m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tsizliyi b\u00fct\u00fcn sferalarda ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini gizl\u0259tm\u0259dil\u0259r.
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\n A\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu cavablar m\u0259ni \u00e7ox \u00fczd\u00fc. Adam sevgilisinin \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 baxa-baxa ondan m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tsizlik dil\u0259yir v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f d\u0259 he\u00e7 n\u0259 olmam\u0131\u015f kimi a\u011fz\u0131n ay\u0131r\u0131b, \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259 t\u0259b\u0259ss\u00fcml\u0259 bu fikir\u0259 he\u00e7 bir reaksiya vermir. G\u00f6r\u00fcn bu insanlar bir-birini n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131blar ki, indi bir g\u00fcnl\u00fck arzu olaraq m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tsiz m\u00fcnasib\u0259t ist\u0259yirl\u0259r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Nevrotik v\u0259 psixopatik simptomlar\u0131n da\u015f\u0131y\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131 olan h\u0259min c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bir-birin\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nmirl\u0259r. Bir-birl\u0259rinin telefon yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n yoxlayan insanlardan n\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259s\u0259n ax\u0131?! Onlar qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 \u015f\u0259xs\u0259 bir n\u00f6v \u00f6z \u015f\u0259xsi m\u00fclki kimi bax\u0131r v\u0259 onun azadl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 \u0259lind\u0259n al\u0131rlar. Bununla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, sevgilil\u0259rini qoruyur v\u0259 onlar\u0131 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259sizlik fazas\u0131nda saxlay\u0131rlar. Amma bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259t getdikc\u0259 bezdirici v\u0259 disharmonik duruma \u00e7evirildiyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevgilil\u0259rin h\u0259yat\u0131ndak\u0131 r\u0259ngl\u0259r solur v\u0259 h\u0259yat d\u00f6z\u00fclm\u0259z hal al\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u00c7ox vaxt g\u00f6z\u0259l m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti pozan t\u0259k \u015fey el\u0259 \u00d6Z\u00dcM\u00dcZ\u00dcK.. \u018fvv\u0259lc\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti azad ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259liyik. Sonra g\u00fcv\u0259n problemimizi h\u0259ll etm\u0259liyik..\n<\/p>\n
\n \u018fslind\u0259 biz laz\u0131ms\u0131z m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 aqressiv-emosianal reaksiyalar veririk. X\u0131rda \u015feyl\u0259ri b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u0259r\u0259k, qar\u0131\u015fqan\u0131 fil edirik. K\u0259nardak\u0131lar\u0131n n\u0259 dediyini \u00e7ox ciddi q\u0259bul edib, onlar\u0131n t\u0259sirin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fck. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na h\u0259s\u0259d aparar\u0131q. \u00d6z xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyimizin qiym\u0259tini bilm\u0259d\u0259n onu ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edirik… Bir \u00e7ox \u015fey\u0259 sahib oldu\u011fumuz halda, hans\u0131sa \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131\u011fa g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc v\u0259 yax\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 incidirik. \u015e\u00fckr etm\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, daha \u00e7ox ist\u0259yirik.. Bizim b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259diyimiz h\u0259yat, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n x\u0259yal\u0131d\u0131r. Bizim xo\u015fb\u0259xt ola bilm\u0259diyimiz h\u0259min s\u0259viyy\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn var-d\u00f6vl\u0259t say\u0131l\u0131r. Bizim \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fctd\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz, \u015fi\u015firtdiyimiz m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015fqas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bo\u015f \u015feydir.\n<\/p>\n
\n H\u0259yatdan z\u00f6vq alma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259liyik. H\u0259r \u015feyin bir d\u0259y\u0259ri, h\u0259r ‘an’\u0131n biz\u0259 verdiyi m\u00fcsb\u0259t bir m\u0259nas\u0131 v\u0259 t\u0259siri var… Unutmayaq, xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq da ,olmamaq da \u00f6z \u0259limizd\u0259dir. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259traf\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, \u0259limizd\u0259ki imkanlar\u0131, insanlar\u0131 yox, \u00f6z d\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259yi\u015fdir\u0259k.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bir ild\u0259n \u00e7oxdur ki psixologiyan\u0131n qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri sah\u0259sini m\u0259nims\u0259yir\u0259m.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":80446,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-184196","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-menim-fikrimce","infinite-scroll-item","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-33","no-featured-image-padding"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n