\n Bu yaz\u0131mda az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n yazm\u0131\u015fam. Bizim qad\u0131nlardan yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f onlarla publisistik m\u0259qa var. H\u0259min m\u0259qal\u0259l\u0259rin \u00e7oxu da t\u0259nqidi xarakterlidir. Orda qad\u0131nlar\u0131n t\u0259hsild\u0259n, bilgid\u0259n uzaq d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n tutmu\u015f, sosial h\u0259yatdak\u0131 passivliyi, eyni zamanda intim sferadak\u0131 s\u0259ri\u015ft\u0259sizlikl\u0259ri d\u0259 qat\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 t\u0259nqid olunur.\n<\/p>\n
\n O c\u00fcr m\u0259qal\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 m\u0259hz qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n birm\u0259nal\u0131 qar\u015f\u0131lanm\u0131r. Qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7oxu yaz\u0131lara s\u0259rt t\u0259pkil\u0259r verir, q\u0131c\u0131qlan\u0131r, \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rlar. Bu da t\u0259bii hald\u0131r. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, bizim xalq\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tinin t\u0259nqid\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc yox d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259sind\u0259dir. Az sayda qad\u0131n o yaz\u0131lardan n\u0259tic\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xarma\u011f\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcn tutur.\n<\/p>\n
\n Qad\u0131nlara qar\u015f\u0131 h\u0259min t\u0259nqidi m\u0259qal\u0259l\u0259rin m\u00fc\u0259llifl\u0259ri d\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt m\u0259hz ki\u015fil\u0259r olur. M\u0259nim \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn d\u0259 bu q\u0259bild\u0259n olan m\u0259qal\u0259l\u0259rim var v\u0259 ox\u015far reaksiyalar\u0131 da g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f\u0259m.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu g\u00fcn is\u0259 h\u0259d\u0259fim ki\u015fil\u0259rdir. Bura \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, b\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r aid etm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, he\u00e7 vaxt \u00fcmumil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259 aparm\u0131ram. \u00d6z\u00fcm d\u0259 buna qar\u015f\u0131yam.\n<\/p>\n
\n T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bir \u00e7oxu t\u0259nqidi yaz\u0131lar\u0131n, \u00fcmumil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259 \u015f\u0259kilind\u0259 oldu\u011funu z\u0259nn edir. Onlar h\u0259tta yaz\u0131n\u0131n \u0259vv\u0259llind\u0259 qeyd olunmu\u015f \u201c\u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259t\u201d v\u0259 \u201cbir \u00e7oxu\u201d ifad\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirm\u0259yib, m\u0259qal\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259r\u0259z \u201cg\u00f6zl\u00fckl\u0259ri\u201d il\u0259 bax\u0131rlar. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 o c\u00fcr qeyri-adekvat reaksiyalar \u00e7oxluq t\u0259\u015fkil el\u0259yir.\n<\/p>\n
\n Dem\u0259li, bu yax\u0131nda bir hadis\u0259nin \u015fahidi oldum. Universitetl\u0259rd\u0259n birind\u0259(anonim qals\u0131n) riyaziyyat m\u00fc\u0259llimi i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n g\u0259nc bir o\u011flan m\u0259nim bir tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m q\u0131zla ni\u015fanlan\u0131b. Q\u0131z \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 bir ba\u015fqa universitetd\u0259 sonuncu kursda t\u0259hsil al\u0131r. H\u0259min q\u0131z da olduqca a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t qoyan biridir. Q\u0131z\u0131n ni\u015fanl\u0131s\u0131 q\u0131sqancl\u0131q \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 tez-tez dava sal\u0131rm\u0131\u015f. H\u0259tta q\u0131z\u0131n \u0259laq\u0259 saxlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ba\u015fqa o\u011flan da yox imi\u015f. Bu riyaziyyat m\u00fc\u0259llimi d\u0259 dig\u0259r psixopat o\u011flanlar kimi h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 q\u0131zla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u0259nd\u0259, ni\u015fanl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n telefonunu qurdalay\u0131b, yoxlayan tipl\u0259rd\u0259n imi\u015f. V\u0259 el\u0259 olur ki, bu m\u00fc\u0259llim q\u0131za \u015f\u0259rt qoyur ki, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, q\u0131zlarla da \u0259laq\u0259ni k\u0259s. Y\u0259ni ancaq m\u0259niml\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f. Q\u0131z da bu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259 raz\u0131 olmay\u0131b. M\u00fc\u0259llim ad\u0131n\u0131 da\u015f\u0131yan, ki\u015fi cinsin\u0259 m\u0259xsus h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xs d\u0259, etiraza g\u00f6r\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r q\u0131z\u0131 yumruqlama\u011fa ki, \u201cb\u0259s s\u0259n kims\u0259n ki, m\u0259nim s\u00f6z\u00fcmd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rsan\u201d. Q\u0131z da \u00e7ox haql\u0131 olaraq o\u011flan\u0131n h\u0259min h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tind\u0259n sonra ni\u015fan\u0131 geri qaytar\u0131r.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu hadis\u0259ni e\u015fid\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259h\u015f\u0259t pis oldum. Utand\u0131m, m\u0259yus oldum. Ki\u015fil\u0259rimizin bu c\u00fcr \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259ri m\u0259ni k\u0259d\u0259rl\u0259ndirir.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u00d6z h\u0259mcinsl\u0259rim\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, vallah, x\u0259cal\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir\u0259m. Onlar\u0131n bel\u0259 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri dig\u0259r vicdanl\u0131, \u0259xlaql\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259 n\u00fcfuzuna k\u00f6lg\u0259 sal\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki o hallar qad\u0131nlara b\u00f6y\u00fck travmalar ya\u015fad\u0131r. Onsuz da s\u0259rb\u0259st olmayan, h\u0259min travmalar\u0131 qazanm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z, ba\u015fqa ki\u015fi il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olark\u0259n, art\u0131q o ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 il\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 onlara g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Bu da biz ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 eyb\u0259c\u0259r bir hal, b\u0259rbad v\u0259ziyy\u0259t dem\u0259kdir.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu g\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259rimiz aras\u0131nda \u201cpopulyarl\u0131q\u201d da\u015f\u0131yan m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nsizlikdir. Onlar sevgilil\u0259rin\u0259, \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131na g\u00fcv\u0259nmirl\u0259r. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, \u201c\u0259g\u0259r m\u0259n qad\u0131n\u0131ma \u201cn\u0259zar\u0259t\u201d etm\u0259s\u0259m, onu \u00e7\u00f6l\u0259-bay\u0131ra \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa qoysam, telefondak\u0131 yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 yoxlamasam, v\u0259ssalam, qad\u0131n bir ba\u015fqas\u0131 il\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259c\u0259k\u201d.
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\n Ax\u0131 n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn? \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fc-\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bu q\u0259d\u0259rmi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 tutar?\n<\/p>\n
\n Bu birba\u015fa insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259yind\u0259n qaynaqlan\u0131r. Bu adamlar\u0131n ciddi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259n problemi var. Niy\u0259? \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar \u00f6zl\u0259ri ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n q\u0131z-g\u0259linin\u0259 s\u00f6z at\u0131r, yoldan \u00e7\u0131xarma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z arvadlar\u0131na dem\u0259dikl\u0259ri iltifatlar\u0131 ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nlara yaz\u0131rlar. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 daim daxili narahatl\u0131qla ya\u015fay\u0131r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131na da h\u0259yat\u0131 zindan edirl\u0259r.\n<\/p>\n
\n \u018fslind\u0259, bizim ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259rdl\u0259ri t\u0259kc\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nsizlik problemi il\u0259 bits\u0259ydi, buna sevin\u0259rdik. G\u00fcv\u0259nsizlik onlar\u0131n probleml\u0259r z\u0259ncirinin bir h\u0259lq\u0259sidir sad\u0259c\u0259.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bizim ki\u015fil\u0259r, \u00fcmumilikd\u0259 ictimai davran\u0131\u015f qaydalar\u0131 ba\u015fda olmaqla, etik-m\u0259d\u0259ni dan\u0131\u015f\u0131q v\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t, u\u015fa\u011fa \u201cata\u201d t\u0259rbiy\u0259si verm\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6z qad\u0131n\u0131 il\u0259 m\u0259hr\u0259m davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n primitiv qaydalar\u0131ndan bel\u0259 uzaqd\u0131lar.\n<\/p>\n
\n Bunun b\u0259lli s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri ondan ibar\u0259tdir ki, evin ki\u015fisi s\u0259h\u0259r evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r, gedir i\u015f\u0259, ax\u015fam \u00e7ox gec saatlarda ev\u0259 yor\u011fun halda d\u00f6n\u00fcb, \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259yin yeyib yat\u0131r. Yegan\u0259 funksiyas\u0131 ev\u0259 \u201c\u00e7\u00f6r\u0259k pulu\u201d g\u0259tirm\u0259k olan ki\u015fi, \u00f6z \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 rol oynaya bilmir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n el\u0259, o\u011flan \u00f6vlad\u0131na bir ki\u015fi kimi hans\u0131 m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti da\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, qad\u0131nlarla v\u0259 h\u0259tta \u00f6z h\u0259mcinsl\u0259ri il\u0259 nec\u0259 r\u0259ftar ed\u0259c\u0259yini \u00f6yr\u0259tmirs\u0259, h\u0259min u\u015faq da onun n\u00fcmun\u0259 kimi s\u0259rgil\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yi b\u00fct\u00fcn davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259 \u015fans\u0131ndan m\u0259hrumdursa, sabah h\u0259min o\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131n yetkin ya\u015fdak\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015flar sistemi d\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 olmayacaq. Bel\u0259 hallarda \u00e7ox az sayda istisnalara rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olar.\n<\/p>\n
\n Ki\u015fil\u0259rimizin bu hala g\u0259lm\u0259sind\u0259 onlar\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ed\u0259n analar\u0131n da rolu az deyil. M\u0259hz o qad\u0131nlar, u\u015faql\u0131qdan o\u011flan \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z q\u0131z \u00f6vladlar\u0131ndan daha \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcr v\u0259 onlar aras\u0131nda a\u015fkar f\u0259rq qoyurlar. \u201cBu, ki\u015fidir, ona h\u0259r \u015fey olar\u201d s\u00f6yl\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259, o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 bazas\u0131nda onlar\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn z\u0259r\u0259rli olan kodla\u015fd\u0131rma apar\u0131rlar.\n<\/p>\n
\n O c\u00fcr yeti\u015f\u0259n o\u011flanlar g\u0259nc biri ki\u015fiy\u0259 \u00e7eviril\u0259nd\u0259 despotik, \u0259dal\u0259tsiz v\u0259 aqressiv bir tip\u0259 d\u00f6n\u00fcrl\u0259r. Onlar qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinin \u0259n sad\u0259 qaydalar\u0131ndan x\u0259b\u0259rsiz olurlar. Qad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131 orqazm hal\u0131na \u00e7atd\u0131rmaqdan bix\u0259b\u0259r olan bu tip ki\u015fil\u0259r, yad qad\u0131nlara meyl sal\u0131b, onlar\u0131 \u00f6z \u201ccayna\u011f\u0131na\u201d ke\u00e7irm\u0259k arzusu il\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131rlar.\n<\/p>\n
\n Kitabdan, m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259td\u0259n uzaq h\u0259min cahil ki\u015fil\u0259r, n\u0259inki qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, h\u0259m d\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6lk\u0259miz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259lidil\u0259r…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bu yaz\u0131mda az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n yazm\u0131\u015fam<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":80446,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-183302","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-menim-fikrimce","infinite-scroll-item","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-33","no-featured-image-padding"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n