{"id":162983,"date":"2013-12-13T18:18:25","date_gmt":"2013-12-13T18:18:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meydan.tv\/article\/hediyyelik-sevisenler\/"},"modified":"2013-12-13T18:18:25","modified_gmt":"2013-12-13T18:18:25","slug":"hediyyelik-sevisenler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meydan.tv\/az\/article\/hediyyelik-sevisenler\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cH\u0259diyy\u0259lik\u201d sevi\u015f\u0259nl\u0259r"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\n – Valideynl\u0259ri sevm\u0259k borcumuzun oldu\u011funa inam bizi iki\u00fczl\u00fc adama \u00e7evirir.
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\n – Valideyn t\u0259sirind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmaq m\u00fctl\u0259qdi. H\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 onlar\u0131n ist\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fd\u0131rma\u011fa davam ets\u0259k, he\u00e7 vaxt \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc tapmayaca\u011f\u0131q. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc tapmal\u0131y\u0131q, tan\u0131mal\u0131y\u0131q.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri m\u0259n demir\u0259m, \u201cKi\u015fil\u0259rin kitab\u0131\u201d adl\u0131 m\u00fchazir\u0259l\u0259r toplusunda b\u00f6y\u00fck hind filosofu O\u015fo deyir. O\u015fo \u00e7ox sevdiyim filosof oldu\u011funa g\u00f6r\u0259, onunla raz\u0131la\u015f\u0131ram. Az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131lar\u0131n \u00e7ox m\u00f6vzuda s\u0259mimiyy\u0259tin\u0259 inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m kimi, valideyn-\u00f6vlad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinin d\u0259 s\u0259mimiliyin\u0259 inanm\u0131ram. \u015e\u00fcurlu, ya \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 – qeyri-s\u0259mimidirl\u0259r.\n<\/p>\n

\n Az\u0259rbaycanda yeni ail\u0259 qurmu\u015f g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259 ilk sual bu olur: Bir\u015fey-mir\u015fey var?\n<\/p>\n

\n Bu sual\u0131n cavab\u0131 \u0259slind\u0259, \u201cn\u0259di, qoyun bir bisimillah ed\u0259k d\u0259\u201d olmal\u0131yk\u0259n, utan\u0131b narahat\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q ke\u00e7ir\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259rd ed\u0259n adamlar da kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259rdir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, bax\u0131rsan ki, ail\u0259 qurduqlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc ay\u0131 tamam olmam\u0131\u015f g\u0259lin hamil\u0259dir. Yax\u0131nlar sevinc\u0259y\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. S\u00f6z\u00fcn d\u00fcz\u00fc indi soyuqd\u0259ym\u0259, tonus, mikrobdan m\u00fcalic\u0259 almadan ana olma\u011fa haz\u0131rla\u015fmaq, y\u0259ni indiki zamanda dava-d\u0259rmans\u0131z hamil\u0259 qalmaq \u00e7ox sevindirici hald\u0131r. \u201cBenzinin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcy\u00fc, ucuzlu\u011fun t\u00fc\u011fyan el\u0259diyi, maa\u015flar\u0131n y\u00fcks\u0259k oldu\u011fu vaxtda yeni ail\u0259 qurmu\u015f g\u0259ncl\u0259rin bir d\u0259 he\u00e7 r\u00fc\u015fv\u0259t s\u00f6hb\u0259ti olmayan h\u0259kiml\u0259rd\u0259 qalmaq, sudan ucuz qiym\u0259t\u0259 d\u0259rmanlar almaqla\u201d get-g\u0259l\u0259 s\u0259rf etdiyi zaman\u0131 sevi\u015f\u0259rl\u0259r bar\u0131. Amma m\u0259ni narahat ed\u0259n, maraqland\u0131ran odur ki, bel\u0259 min-bir \u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259 \u00f6vlad d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tir\u0259r\u0259rk\u0259n valideynl\u0259r n\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr? \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 n\u0259s\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259rmi? Yoxsa, el\u0259 t\u0259z\u0259 evl\u0259nibl\u0259r, m\u00fctl\u0259q sevi\u015fm\u0259lidirl\u0259r v\u0259 bu sevi\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259 h\u0259zzd\u0259n ba\u015fqa n\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259ntil\u0259ri var? G\u00f6zl\u0259nti onlar\u0131nd\u0131r, yoxsa qohum-\u0259qraba, qonum-qon\u015fu, n\u0259n\u0259-baba olmaq e\u015fqind\u0259 olan valideynl\u0259rininmi?
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\n B\u0259z\u0259n kimd\u0259ns\u0259 yuxar\u0131dak\u0131 m\u0259h\u015fur sual soru\u015fulanda, problemli adam\u0131n \u0259da dolu \u201cbiz h\u0259l\u0259 u\u015faq planlam\u0131r\u0131q\u201d cavab\u0131n\u0131 e\u015fidirik. \u00c7ox nadir olsa da, bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 olur. Amma onlara kinay\u0259 il\u0259, S\u00f6yl\u00fcy\u0259 yara\u015fan t\u0259rzd\u0259 \u201ca\u011f\u0131z, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n da planl\u0131, plans\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 olur?\u201d dey\u0259 cavab ver\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 olur. B\u0259li, m\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, \u00f6vlad d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259k m\u00fctl\u0259q planl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni d\u0259rk edil\u0259r\u0259k.\n<\/p>\n

\n \u201cM\u0259n\u201d yox, \u201cbiz\u201d bu u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ist\u0259yirikmi? Bizim bu u\u015fa\u011fa ver\u0259c\u0259k yet\u0259ri q\u0259d\u0259r sevgimiz varm\u0131? \u018fsas bunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259kdir. Bizim bu u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 saxlamaq imkan\u0131m\u0131z varm\u0131?-s\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k \u0259n sonuncu g\u0259r\u0259k\u00e7\u0259dir. Normal \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 bunu \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrl\u0259r.
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\n Y\u0259ni \u0259sas maddiyyat deyil, m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rdir. S\u00f6zs\u00fcz ki, ki\u00e7ik vaxtlar\u0131nda \u00f6z can\u0131n\u0131ndan, qan\u0131ndan olan bir par\u00e7an\u0131, nec\u0259 dey\u0259rl\u0259r g\u00fcnahs\u0131z, saf k\u00f6rp\u0259ni sevm\u0259m\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. Do\u011fulduqdan sonra onu instinktiv sev\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. \u018fsas olan, siz onu d\u0259rk ed\u0259r\u0259k, ist\u0259kli olaraq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirmisinizmi?- bax budur. M\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs\u0259n \u201c\u0259\u015fi, n\u0259 bilim, sevi\u015fibl\u0259r, anam\u0131z hamil\u0259 qal\u0131b v\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcfi d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lmi\u015fik\u201d kimisind\u0259n yox, planl\u0131, ist\u0259kli, \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259, arzuolunan \u00f6vlad olaraq do\u011fulmaq ist\u0259rdim. Yox, m\u0259n demir\u0259m ki, b\u0259tnd\u0259 tasad\u00fcf\u0259n mayalanan d\u00f6l\u00fc abort edin. Bu d\u0259qiq\u0259 tibb, elm o q\u0259d\u0259r inki\u015faf edib ki, abort h\u0259tta \u0259n son versiya bel\u0259 deyil. Y\u0259ni \u0259vv\u0259la prezervativ, qoruyucu tabletl\u0259r v\u0259 s. qoruyucu \u00fcsullardan istifad\u0259 edin. Yox bunlara r\u0259\u011fm\u0259n nec\u0259s\u0259 hamil\u0259 qalm\u0131s\u0131n\u0131zsa, ilk \u00fc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259liy\u0259 kimi u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ald\u0131ra bil\u0259rsiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnki o h\u0259l\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 formaya d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f, mayalanm\u0131\u015f qan laxtas\u0131d\u0131r. Amma \u00fc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259 sonra is\u0259 d\u00f6ld\u0259 art\u0131q \u00fcr\u0259k yaran\u0131b, atma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bu vaxt, o \u00fc\u00e7 h\u0259ft\u0259 ke\u00e7ibs\u0259, \u00f6z \u201cs\u0259hvinizi\u201d sevm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnki onun d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lib-g\u0259lm\u0259m\u0259k se\u00e7imi yox idi, sizins\u0259 \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259 \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z vard\u0131. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yin ki, m\u0259n nigahdan k\u0259nar hamil\u0259liyi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutub, \u201cs\u0259hv\u201d deyir\u0259m. Yox. Nigahdan k\u0259nar amma sevgi il\u0259, birg\u0259 q\u0259rar ver\u0259r\u0259k, ist\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tiril\u0259n k\u00f6rp\u0259y\u0259 \u201cs\u0259hv\u201d, \u201cg\u00fcnah\u201d dem\u0259yin \u00f6z\u00fc bir g\u00fcnah v\u0259 bo\u015fbo\u011fazl\u0131qd\u0131r. M\u0259n m\u0259hz evli insanlar\u0131n, Az\u0259rbaycan \u0259halisinin yar\u0131dan \u00e7oxunun \u015f\u00fcursuz, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259siz, t\u0259sad\u00fcf\u0259n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirdikl\u0259ri u\u015faqlardan, bizd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131ram.\n<\/p>\n

\n Siz\u0259 b\u0259sit g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. N\u0259 d\u0259xli ax\u0131, n\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck problemdir bu?- dey\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz. Amma unutmay\u0131n ki, b\u0259\u015f\u0259riyy\u0259tin v\u0259 insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn problemi onun u\u015faqk\u0259n ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 travmalar\u0131n m\u0259hsuludur. Lap d\u0259rin\u0259 ens\u0259k, bu g\u00fcn\u00fcn diktatorlar\u0131na da ac\u0131ya bil\u0259rik. \u00c7\u00fcnki t\u0259m\u0259ll\u0259ri z\u0259d\u0259lidir. G\u00fcnah onlarda deyil, onlar\u0131n valideynl\u0259rind\u0259dir des\u0259k, onlar\u0131n valideynin d\u0259 g\u00fcnah\u0131 onlar\u0131n n\u0259n\u0259-babas\u0131na gedib \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Y\u0259ni z\u0259ncirvari ruhsuzluq v\u0259 cahillik bu g\u00fcnki insanlar\u0131 diktarora v\u0259 s. \u00e7evirir. Adam var ki, u\u015faq vaxt\u0131 bac\u0131-qarda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 h\u0259min adam aras\u0131nda edilmi\u015f ayr\u0131-se\u00e7kiliy\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck travma al\u0131b v\u0259 bu g\u00fcn d\u0259 o travman\u0131n f\u0259sadlar\u0131 il\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131r, eyni zamanda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131na z\u0259r\u0259r verir. \u0130nsan psixologiyas\u0131 \u00e7ox q\u0259lizdir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 sevi\u015fib t\u00f6r\u0259y\u0259rk\u0259n \u00f6z m\u0259hsulunuzu yeti\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 haz\u0131r olub-olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn ki, sevginizi eyni miqdarda iki \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131z aras\u0131nda b\u00f6l\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259ksinizmi? D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn ki, \u00f6vlad sizin eqolar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 t\u0259min etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fam\u0131r, \u00f6z\u00fc ya\u015famaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lir.
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\n \u018fn faci\u0259visi is\u0259, bilirsiniz, n\u0259dir? \u00d6vlad\u0131 olmayan qohum-\u0259qrabas\u0131na \u00f6z \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 ver\u0259 bil\u0259n valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 var. Burda niyy\u0259t n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00f6y\u00fck yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131q ed\u0259n insan v\u0259 s. \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sin\u0259 sal\u0131nsa da, bir insan\u0131n, veril\u0259n \u00f6vlad\u0131n faci\u0259si dem\u0259kdir. \u201cH\u0259diyy\u0259lik\u201d sevi\u015fib, d\u00fcnyaya u\u015faq g\u0259tir\u0259n valideyn he\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrm\u00fc ki, bu insand\u0131r, canl\u0131d\u0131r, onu nec\u0259 kim\u0259s\u0259 pay verm\u0259k olar ax\u0131? Niyy\u0259t n\u0259 olursa, olsun! Ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u0259m, hans\u0131sa ail\u0259nin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131rlar, amma bir insan, h\u0259min u\u015faq b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259nd\u0259 g\u00fcnah\u0131 kimin \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 y\u0131xs\u0131n ki, nifr\u0259tini qusa bilsin? O \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fck 4 insan aras\u0131nda qal\u0131r. \u00d6vladl\u0131q verildiyi v\u0259 do\u011fma ata-anas\u0131. Ona n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u015f\u0131 bax\u0131lsa da, bu, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n eqosudur. Ondan g\u00f6zl\u0259nil\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k t\u0259m\u0259nnas\u0131d\u0131r.
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\n Niy\u0259 u\u015faqlar evin\u0259 at\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, ana-atas\u0131 b\u0259lli olmayan bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 oradan xilas etm\u0259k vark\u0259n, do\u011fmalar\u0131n\u0131zdan alas\u0131n\u0131z ki? Niy\u0259 o u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ay\u0131ras\u0131n\u0131z ki, do\u011fmalar\u0131ndan? Ya kim o valideyn\u0259 haqq verir ki, h\u0259diyy\u0259 verilm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevi\u015fib, insan d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirib kim\u0259s\u0259 versin? \u00c7\u0259tindir, anlamaq olduqca \u00e7\u0259tindir. Amma m\u0259n bel\u0259 insanlar, valideynl\u0259r tan\u0131y\u0131ram ki, onlar bu haqda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrl\u0259r. Normal v\u0259ziyy\u0259t kimi ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar zat\u0259n cahildirl\u0259r, \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259, n\u0259 etdikl\u0259rinin f\u0259rqind\u0259 ola bilmirl\u0259r.
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\n He\u00e7 siz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fczm\u00fc ki, bir valideyn \u00f6z \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 arzulayaraq, planl\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirsin v\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131 olmayan bir do\u011fmas\u0131 ona yalvar\u0131b dey\u0259, onun ail\u0259si da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131n dey\u0259 \u00f6z o ist\u0259kli \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 kim\u0259s\u0259 h\u0259diyy\u0259 ed\u0259 bilsin? Yox, ist\u0259kli do\u011fulan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 verm\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil.
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\n G\u0259lin, t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr ed\u0259k. Siz art\u0131q yetkin g\u0259ncsiniz. \u00d6yr\u0259nirsiniz ki, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 ata-ana bildikl\u0259riniz \u0259sl ata-anan\u0131z deyil. Xalan\u0131z, xalan\u0131z \u0259ri, day\u0131n\u0131z, \u0259miniz, bibiniz bildikl\u0259rinizd\u0259n hans\u0131sa bir c\u00fct\u00fc sizin \u00f6z, do\u011fma ata-anan\u0131zd\u0131r. B\u0259li-b\u0259li (y\u0259qin indi deyirsiniz ki, bu q\u0131z dey\u0259s\u0259n, filml\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox bax\u0131b. Bel\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin tam ortas\u0131nda b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f\u0259m, \u00e7ox adi v\u0259 reald\u0131r m\u0259nim\u00e7\u00fcn art\u0131q). H\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc nec\u0259 hiss ed\u0259rdiniz? 20 il boyunca ham\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n, ana-atan\u0131z, b\u00fct\u00fcn \u0259traf\u0131n\u0131z, do\u011fma-yad\u0131n\u0131z, h\u0259tta qon\u015funuz t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n aldad\u0131lm\u0131\u015f biri kimi? Yoxsa, ist\u0259nm\u0259yib \u00f6z qohumuna veril\u0259n u\u015faq kimi? V\u0259 ya f\u0259dakar valideynl\u0259rin kiminins\u0259 ail\u0259si da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131n dey\u0259 h\u0259diyy\u0259 edil\u0259n u\u015faq kimi? Ya h\u0259diyy\u0259lik oldu\u011funu \u00f6yr\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra nec\u0259 davranaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilm\u0259y\u0259n, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 itirmi\u015f, ikili h\u0259yat ya\u015fama\u011fa s\u00fcrg\u00fcn olunmu\u015f, bac\u0131-qarda\u015f\u0131ndan uzaq qalm\u0131\u015f, sanki Tanr\u0131 ham\u0131n\u0131n problemimin\u0259 h\u0259ll kimi bu q\u0259d\u0259r y\u00fckl\u0259 s\u0259ni y\u00fckl\u0259yib d\u00fcnyaya atm\u0131\u015f biri kimi? Nec\u0259 hiss ed\u0259rdiniz? Q\u0259rar ver\u0259 bilmirsiniz? B\u0259li, h\u0259l\u0259 bunlar\u0131 hissi olaraq ya\u015famadan q\u0259rar verm\u0259y\u0259 n\u0259 var ki? Bir d\u0259 bu sadalad\u0131\u011f\u0131m suallar\u0131n hans\u0131n\u0131sa se\u00e7m\u0259k iqtidar\u0131nda deyils\u0259niz? Bunlar\u0131n ham\u0131s\u0131na bird\u0259n y\u00fckl\u0259nib alt\u0131nda \u0259zilirsinizs\u0259? Nec\u0259 bir hissdir ya\u015famadan kims\u0259 bil\u0259 bilm\u0259z. Siz\u0259 \u00f6vladl\u0131q veril\u0259n tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir q\u0131zdan dan\u0131\u015f\u0131m. Tale onu h\u0259rt\u0259r\u0259fli y\u0131xm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. \u00d6vladl\u0131q verilmi\u015fdi. Bunu m\u0259n bil\u0259nd\u0259 o q\u0131z \u00f6vladl\u0131q oldu\u011funu bilmirdi. Sonradan art\u0131q \u00f6yr\u0259nmi\u015fdi. R\u0259fiq\u0259min qohumuydu. Qohumu dey\u0259nd\u0259 ki, \u0259misi q\u0131z\u0131. Amma \u00f6z, do\u011fma yox, g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u0259 \u0259misi q\u0131z\u0131. R\u0259fiq\u0259min \u0259misigil \u00f6vladlar\u0131 olmad\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn o q\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z bald\u0131z\u0131ndan \u00f6vladl\u0131q g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcl\u0259r. S\u00f6zs\u00fcz ki, o q\u0131za \u00f6z \u00f6vladlar\u0131 kimi, \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 bax\u0131b, \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcl\u0259r. Sonradan bu q\u0131z \u00f6vladl\u0131q oldu\u011funu \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 n\u0259 etdi, n\u0259 hiss ke\u00e7irdi bilmir\u0259m, soru\u015fmam\u0131\u015fam. Amma onu bilir\u0259m ki, bu q\u0131z\u0131n he\u00e7 b\u0259xti g\u0259tirm\u0259mi\u015fdi. \u00d6nc\u0259 do\u011fma anas\u0131, ard\u0131ndan do\u011fma atas\u0131, sonra q\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcb saxlayan, ata bildiyi xalas\u0131 \u0259ri, ard\u0131ndan da xalas\u0131, y\u0259ni anal\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fc. Bir bac\u0131s\u0131 vard\u0131, do\u011fma. O da ail\u0259 qurmu\u015fdu. Birc\u0259 soru\u015fmu\u015fdum ki, do\u011fma ana-atan\u0131n q\u0259brini ziyar\u0259t edirs\u0259nmi? O deyirdi ki, bilirs\u0259n ger\u00e7\u0259kd\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259n onlar\u0131 ata-ana bilmir\u0259m, xalam, xalam \u0259ridir onlar m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn. M\u0259nim anam da, atam da bu ya\u015f\u0131ma kimi m\u0259ni saxlayanlard\u0131r. 25 ya\u015f\u0131ndan sonra t\u0259k-t\u0259nha bu \u00f6l\u00fcl\u0259rd\u0259n qalma evind\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131rd\u0131. Ali t\u0259hsilli idi. \u0130\u015fl\u0259yib, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc doland\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131.
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\n Bu yax\u0131nlarda r\u0259fiq\u0259md\u0259n o q\u0131z\u0131n nec\u0259 oldu\u011funu soru\u015fdum.
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\n Deyim ki, r\u0259fiq\u0259min bir qarda\u015f\u0131 vard\u0131. Ham\u0131m\u0131zdan b\u00f6y\u00fck idi. El\u0259 o \u00f6vladl\u0131q veril\u0259n q\u0131z da, r\u0259fiq\u0259m d\u0259 m\u0259nd\u0259n xeyli b\u00f6y\u00fckd\u00fcrl\u0259r. N\u0259s\u0259 ki, r\u0259fiq\u0259min qarda\u015f\u0131 evl\u0259nm\u0259k \u0259r\u0259f\u0259sind\u0259 r\u0259fiq\u0259min atas\u0131, y\u0259ni \u00f6vladl\u0131q q\u0131z\u0131n \u201c\u0259misi\u201d yolda\u015f\u0131na deyir ki, b\u0259s o q\u0131z\u0131 alaq o\u011flumuza. R\u0259fiq\u0259m deyir, anam m\u0259n\u0259 dedi ki; \u201che\u00e7 vaxt \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 d\u00fcz-\u0259m\u0259lli ata-ana n\u0259zar\u0259ti olmay\u0131b, yox, o q\u0131z bir az \u00e7ox o\u011flanlarla dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r filan, ist\u0259mir\u0259m onu g\u0259lin g\u0259tir\u0259k\u201d.
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\n Q\u0131z poz\u011fun v\u0259 \u0259xlaqs\u0131z zad deyildi. Sad\u0259c\u0259 m\u00fcasir, normal bir q\u0131z idi. \u0130ndiki zamanda o\u011flanla dan\u0131\u015fmayan q\u0131zm\u0131 var? Bu sual\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc g\u00fclm\u0259li bir m\u00f6vzudur, n\u0259 is\u0259.
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\n O zamanlar \u00f6vladl\u0131q veril\u0259n q\u0131z\u0131n da r\u0259fiq\u0259min qarda\u015f\u0131na meyli varm\u0131\u015f. R\u0259fiq\u0259min anas\u0131n\u0131n soyuq m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini q\u0131z duyuq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Zaman ke\u00e7ir, bir il sonra r\u0259fiq\u0259min qarda\u015f\u0131 anas\u0131n\u0131n yox, m\u0259hz \u00f6z inad\u0131 say\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6z ist\u0259diyi bir xan\u0131mla evl\u0259nir. V\u0259 g\u0259linl\u0259 qaynana he\u00e7 yolla\u015fm\u0131rlar. \u0130lk aylardan ba\u015flayan dava-q\u0131r\u011f\u0131n, sonda ayr\u0131 ev\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xsalar da g\u0259ncl\u0259r ayr\u0131lmal\u0131 olurlar. R\u0259fiq\u0259m ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra \u201c\u0259misi q\u0131z\u0131\u201d art\u0131q onlara g\u0259lib-getmir. R\u0259fiq\u0259min anas\u0131 o\u011fluna yenid\u0259n q\u0131z axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 a\u011fl\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259n \u00f6vladl\u0131q qayn\u0131 q\u0131z\u0131 olur. R\u0259fiq\u0259m deyir ki; \u201cq\u0131zla yen\u0259 z\u0259ngl\u0259\u015fdik, evl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u0259lib-getm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131q v\u0259 bir g\u00fcn s\u00f6hb\u0259ti a\u00e7\u0131b dedik ki; \u201c\u00dclviyy\u0259 (ad \u015f\u0259rtidir), b\u0259s biz bura g\u0259lmi\u015fik ki, s\u0259ni Turana alaq, raz\u0131sanm\u0131?\u201d
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\n Q\u0131z\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131 art\u0131q ir\u0259lil\u0259mi\u015fdi, ata-ana da yox.\u00a0 R\u0259fiq\u0259m deyir, \u00dclviyy\u0259 qay\u0131d\u0131b \u00fcz\u00fcm\u0259 el\u0259 bir n\u0259z\u0259rl\u0259 baxd\u0131 v\u0259 ikic\u0259 k\u0259lm\u0259 sual verdi:\n<\/p>\n

\n – \u0130ndi niy\u0259?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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